Tellin' the fam continued

[seekHim1]

So I checked out Cecil's original thread with this title but somewhere along the way, the topic turned to "The Church of the Holy Harem" and a sidenote about the following icon looking like the rear of a whitetail deer :idea:

As much as all that cracked me up :lol: , I was still left with some questions. For those actually living poly...have you told family? If so, how?

In my case, my fam is halfway across the country and I think I could very well keep this to myself. I am an open book and prefer to be honest about what is going on in my life, but at the same time, my relationships with my immediate family and relatives is not close. I usually only talk to any of them if I call them. In my mind, that shows they don't care too much about being that involved anyway so why put it out there knowing it won't go well? On the other hand, due to certain knowledge family has, they will have questions when SW moves in with us which is something I think it silly to not disclose (she and I are close so how could I never talk about the stuff we do together? and then there is our oldest son who will most likely innocently talk to grandma about playing with SW's children). My family already has its negative opinions of us so I am accustomed to caring more about what the LORD thinks. I'm just praying for discernment about what to disclose versus what is none of their business...if any of it is their business at all.

I look forward to everyone's thoughts!

 

[redfox]

We haven't, and I doubt we ever will unless we are directly asked.

I know that the kids have talked about H. living here with us, but I don't know how much they've talked about daddy sleeping in by her. It wouldn't surprise me if it's been discussed with the MIL since they've spent a lot of time with her, and she's asked about H. being here. We've said from the beginning that she's here because her home life is a wreck and originally her room was flooded and her family wouldn't take care of it, and now it's just mutually beneficial. We don't go into it much past that.

So far, we haven't been asked. Whether we will or not, I don't know. I really hope we don't have to deal with it though.

 

[mamaleeisme]

We have kind of told our families. We mentioned that we were thinking about PM when we first decided that we felt called to this lifestyle and my family freaked out. I am extremely close to my mom and I felt the need to tell her. We have agreed to just not talk about it, but she knows that D lives with us and her girls call our dh daddy. The rest of my family all know this also and that is all they feel that they need to know (so basically they know that she is our sw, but they prefer to live in denial). DH told his family and they have been surprisingly accepting, even getting the girls christmas presents! I was amazed. His family have not met D, but at some point in the foreseeable future, there will be a time when we all will end up having to go to their house and we will see how it goes. D and dh are not lovey in front of my family either, but eventually we hope they will be accepting enough that if we or he leaves to go somewhere, he will be able to give us both a kiss goodbye or things like that. Even if they are just able to sit next to each other around them, that will be nice. But for now we just tread lightly when we are around the family and let them slowly get used to the idea.

Lindsay