Prayer request friend in need of church + prayer

[YoreyC]

my buddy alex could use some prayers.

really messed up home situation. mom is a hoarder with a host of mental problems, dad is a breathing corpse. alex himself feels like a helpless manbaby because he doesn't know how to do a lot of basic things (cooking, laundry) and thanks to his mom's hoarding his ability to learn is limited.

he's torn between leaving the toxic environment to go to his own place, losing out on some money he gets for taking care of his dad, possibly failing to measure up... and staying.

his mom is in hospital so he's taking the opportunity to clean up and try to hold the line once she gets back.

he wants to get community in a church. i want to find him one that's not going to be shy about practical help and discipleship, not just sit him in a pew.

could use prayers and advice for this

 

[MemeFan]

He is lacking confidence which he lacks because he didn't have enough positive feedback.

Therefore, he must do small baby steps which must be perceived as victory in order to build confidence. Same method for competence building.

Start with something small. Learning to start washing machine is enough of victory per day. In month or two he should be able to take care of himself. Cooking will take more time, but I believe basics can be done in two months.

Check also winner effect.

Only one thing matters. Going forwards.

 

[YoreyC]

my buddy's mom came back from hospital and she's back to abusing him and his dad.

from what he tells me:

she hoards stuff

she messes with his attempts to care for himself like by sabotaging his cooking

she violates personal boundaries and taunts them

says she will lie to police if they ever get involved and say they hit her

i did some research what he can do to have her committed or something and he says he's tried it. i doubt he's exhausted this angle thoroughly so i encourage more of it. but of course the system is slow and confusing and frustrating at best and they can still say no and she can still lie. i advised him to start recording some stuff.

other option is to leave. he says he cant do that because he doesnt want to leave her with his dad. maybe thats true maybe its an excuse. but hes not considering it an option.

he's at the breaking point and is threatening to do something drastic. please pray for him and advise me if you know.

 

[steve]

If there is any elder abuse that can be investigated, it can be reported anonymously.
Investigators could help turn the table on her threats.