I am sorry for the delay in responding. I have been moving and am finally in our new home. A mess but here. We arrived at 3 this morning, after many different sort of delays.
I would encourage you to stay the course. You had reasons for making the choice to marry "Pastor". Whatever your difficulties, you need to remember that you did this for those reasons. Divorce is painful for anyone for any reason.
There are always difficulties when dealing with relationships. Even if you were monogamously married you guys would have difficulties. That is the way relationships work. Add a third person (or more) to the relationship and it further complicates things. But.....
The additional people also make for more joy. Ask yourself these questions...
1. How is your relationship with the other wife?
2. How is "Pastor's" relationship with the other wife?
3. How do you all three relate to each other?
If these questions lead to negative answers then check and see what you are doing to make each one better. There is little we can do about number 2 except to check our own motives. But for the others, there is much we can do to enhance our "family" time and experiences.
Please write me at
lissa@biblicalfamilies.org and we can talk more.
Lissa
