From Russia with Love!

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Hello Biblical Families!

I am Glenn and my fabulous wife is Elena. We have enjoyed reading your wonderful posts, and there are many we continuing to read. We have a fabulous, rock solid marriage of 14 years, and we have a beautiful 2 year 8 month son. We thought that we had a fertility problem, but it ended up being a minor problem. I met my wife in Russia in 1995, and our toddler speaks mostly Russian because he will be heavily exposed to English when he goes to school unless we home school him. We hope to have another child next year. We have no family remaining in America after tragically losing my mother last June who lived with us during our 14 year marriage. She was as close to my wife as me, and losing her left a huge gap in our lives. We never thought about PM until losing her, and this is when we discovered your site. Since last August, I began exploring many Russian dating sites similar to the way I did the first time when I went to Russia in 1995, but I did not meet my wife in Russia through any type of agency. Our unexpected meeting in Russia is quite a story, and I thank God we met. Though many Russians are not open to PM, we found a terrific Russian girl (very similar to us), and my wife and I often speak with her by phone and Skype. It already feels like she's a part of our family. It's been an interesting journey, and now we have to decide if we will truly take this PM step. We are praying hard and with time and patience, we should know the answer. Could you please help us with a couple of starter questions? One, health insurance. Do PM people purchase a separate plan? I am a teacher, and I cannot add a second wife to our health plan. Maybe in the future this will change? Second, children. Do PM children keep their parents lifestyle a secret, especially as they become older? I could not allow anyone in my profession to know about PM as it could be risky to my career. I'm not worried about churches, as I'm sure that we could worship without revealing our PM situation. Thank you, and we wish everyone many blessings!

 

[CecilW]

Welcome, Glenn and Elena:

Glad to have you with us, and we look forward to getting acquainted.

As to your questions:
** If adding her to the same insurance policy is impossible, than another one will presumably be necessary, right? She and her future children have the right to expect the same sort of coverage you provide for the rest of your family.
** Open-ness or hiding. Family by family decision. Search the site for a topic about "Coming out". Many of us feel it is best and less stressful to be open from the first. Others are fearful of the results and let that fear determine their choice. There are no Biblical Mandates, and none of US will throw stones at you over either decision.

 

[welltan]

Welcome to the site. We hope you find the support and fellowship that will help you.

 

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Thank you Welltan and Cecil! I appreciate your welcome and good thoughts! I believe that you and many BF members are wonderful people!

I believe that if we choose PM, we will keep our situation as private as possible, mostly due to my career. I have no family other than cousins who would accept us. My wife would never tell her family, but her family will never be able to visit us from Russia. Our possible future second wife from Russia has already told her mother, but not her brother or friends. Maybe later. Her mother has accepted PM, and her father has died. PM would give all of us a larger family that we never had! Maybe Elena, toddler, and I will visit the Tennessee retreat? It would great to meet many people from Biblical Families!