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Godly Fun ways to Bless & Serve our Hubbies!

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Faithful Servant

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Greetings Sisters in Christ,

I'd just like to throw a challenge out there to all of us here. A challenge to step up to the plate and be true and active sisters in the family of God. True and Active in the family by heeding a call to be the "Solution & not the problem," in our lukewarm generation of Christanity. Putting on our shoes of peace, and putting actions to our usual mini lectures of Godly Submission unto our dh's. Instead of the same ol admonishing to "just be quite & obey," to actually come up along side one another offering practial Godly advice. Sharing fun/helpful tips in the lovely lost art of Godly Submission . Getting out of our usual comfort zones, to share some practial & Godly tips that are currently working in your own marriages.

So I guess I'll lead out here. For starters, God has impressed upon me to learn the lost art of knowing when to speak & when not too! :lol: Seems basic & simple right? Well not when you come from a big mouth, over talkitive family who enjoys loud lively conversations with hands & arms flying & whatnot! :P I always joke that "God gave me a big mouth for some reason!" Well yes He did, to share the Gospel & be a blessing. Not to be a loud overbearing cymbal always banging! :o I've applied this learned truth to my relationship with my dh as well - Go figure that this concept applies to my walk of submission.

I've had to realize that I don't have to "be heard all the time," that my way isn't the only way. I've had to learn not to be easily hurt or offended when dh doesn't need or want my input all the time. Learning to trust his ideas, direction & lead in all areas. Dh does regularly ask for my ideas & input on issues, as he truly does appreciate & respect me. Which means the world to me, as I do love him so much! I however have had to learn to step back and actually learn what it means to fully obey and submit to dh's lead, as it is suppose to be. Not for me to allow anything mind you, but to learn my Godly place in our marriage and do my best to fullfil my marital duties as God calls women of the faith to do. Again, seems like an easy basic concept to grasp. However my upbringing was abusive on many levels, as I'm sure I'm not the only one to live through such a horrible childhood. My father was very disrespectful and abusive with my mother. She was never allowed to share ideas, thoughts or have input on any level. So for me, God knows that this area of Submission is a hard area for me to grow in. Thankfully for me God has shown me much mercy & grace, and has given me direction with these issues, as I do believe that he's doing a great work in me! :) There are other acts of kindness and Godly service that I try to do for my dh on a regular basis. As I'm sure many of you Sisters in Christ here also do. It would be great if you all would prayerfully consider stepping out and offer to share some Godly, fun and practial tips or ideas that work for you in your marriages. To step out and truly be the "hands & feet of Christ," by offering encouraging & thoughtful real life helpful tips to your Sisters in Christ. Thanks for considering to be a part of the solution, and not a part of an age old problem! ;)

Warm Wishes for God's Provisions, Knowledge & Joy!
F.S.

I PRAY THAT I BE NOT A HINDRANCE!
JEREMIAH 29:11 :)
 
Well, I feel like I have failed miserably in these areas but anything I would say or have learned is in the books "Created to Be His Help Meet" by Debi Pearl or "You Can Be the Wife of a Happy Husband" by Darien Cooper (a woman). One neat tidbit I read in another book called "Pusuit of Godly Seed", an awesome book about parenting with a few chapters for wives, is that we should treat our husbands as if Jesus Himself walked into the house. So, keep that in mind when hubby walks in the door the next time.

Like FS, I am vocal (aka big mouth :lol: ) as well and have learned there is a time and place for it. And one place it is not for is when hubby shares something and we give our input on how he should have handled it or criticize in some way even if it is said nicely...it's just best not to say anything.

One thing I'm really feeling impressed upon my heart lately is that hubby is not here for me - I/we are here for him. That is so hard to get over when I have thought life is about my happiness. If I'm unhappy, so what? Where did God say it's about my happiness??? My happiness should be in obeying the LORD and serving my husband. It's not about me...period...it's about hubby and the LORD.

Heather
 
Thanks SeekHim1 for sharing!

As I enjoy reading your posts and gleaning Godly wisdom from your shared thoughts. I do understand that we women of the faith have allot of spiritual growing to do in order to "de-brain wash ourselves," from America's lukewarm Christian teachings that has filled our heads from all of this generations pc churches that are out there. We were in "a round about way," through some churches and mainly our un-godly pc society, have been taught that it is all about us! We all, both brothers & sisters in Christ have heard all the mixed worldly/sinful messages that "hey it's a doggie dog world!" So either of the sexes should just go for it all & do whatever it takes to get ahead in this world. :roll:

Not the Godly instructions that our loving Savior sets forth for us all to follow as brothers & sisters in Christ! We all are instructed to love our neighbors as ourselves. Doing unto others as we would have done unto us. It's not just about us in this big ol world. Neither is it about just any one person in a marriage either. God does instruct the married men of the faith to love their wives as Christ loves the church, even giving up their very lives if necessary. So in a way through that command, yes Yeshua does care about wives happieness.

He cares about everyone's happieness in this life, as He tells us all that in Him we can have life and have it more abundtantly. As there is Joy in the Lord, and joy & happieness to be blessed with in our marriages, if we're each looking out for the others needs and best interests. We get off track & out of God's will ,when we're out from under our dh's spiritual authority, when we wives begin to think that everything is only about us. When we fail to realize that when our dh's love us as Christ loves the church, & fail to realize that our dh's care about our happieness, we should be careful not to take it for granted & then demand our dh's efforts all the time to please us & not Yeshua or themselves! We lose our focus when we take our eyes off of Yeshua, and the lovely call of Godly balanced Submission upon our lives and not trusting in or being grateful for the true joy of Yeshua Himself.

On a lighter note here, just thought I'd share a few easy doable tips to bless & serve our dh's with. Sometimes when dh comes home from work and is exhausted, I'll offer to help take off his shoes and lay out some of his comfortable jeans or sweats & tee shirts for him to change out of his work clothes & relax in. I always make it a point to ask what he would like me to make for dinner, and try to set the table in a simple but pleasing to the eye manner. Sometimes I'll get the good plates out or light a few candles. I also always ask for his input with my daily chores for the day, if there's anything that I'm not doing that I could do to serve him better. I also do my best not to buy things that aren't truly needed, as the things of this world cannot be taken with us when we die. Things that will just rust & collect dust. Learning to be content and happy as the Apostle Paul encourages us to be in all situations in life. Weather in plenty or in want. Dh & I are both learning and discussing what our "True Needs are vs. our wants," and working on a monthly budget that allows me to stay home with our aswesome kiddos and home school them. Setting the example to them that it isn't "things or money in life," that brings true & complete happieness. So anywho, I'm rambling here again! Please forgive me ladies, as I'd truly love to hear more of your suggestions on this topic. Thanks again SeekHim1st for your timely & wise contributation to this topic! :)

Warm Wishes,
FOR HIS GLORY ALONE,
F.S. :)
 
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