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Hello Brothers & Sisters NEED HELP PLEASE PRAY

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rfehir

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Hello All,

I am new to this board ... I have been a Christian (saved) now for 5 years. I got saved in a small church after my life was starting to fall apart and I turned to God for help and recieved Jesus as Lord. I was very active in the church for the 4 years I attendened.... I would examine the scriptures all most everyday and pray asking the Lord for wisdom and truth... This is where I ran into a big problem with my fellow Christians and Elders at Family Bible Church... The Holy Spirit opened my eyes to truth reguarding marriage and polygyny. After much study I went to the Pastor and Elders only to be comdemned and slanderd (they hold tight to the traditions of man even after I ...with Gods help ...tried to show them the truth of Gods Word). I have since stopped attending but I do not have any fellowship and am becoming very discouraged in the faith. I believe by their teachings they are forbidding marriage and giving in to a doctrine of demons .... Please Brothers and Sisters I need prayer ... my wife/family hates me for my beliefs and I lost all fellowship with other Christians .... need to find a group that holds tight to Gods word and lifts it up above all else... Would greatly appriciate your prayers and Godly advice.

In Jesus Christ are Lord,
Robert
 
Hey Robert, first let me say welcome to the boards. I can imagine the loneliness you feel. Many on here share that same experience. I will pray for you and if you would like to talk, you can private message me.
 
I'm so sorry for the negative reaction you received, especially from your wife and family.

As the wife of a man who practices plural marriage, may I encourage you to spend time strengthening your relationship with your wife before you go any further down the path of plural marriage? It will be a much more pleasant journey with your wife by your side!

Katie
 
The closer you are to Jesus the more the world hates you.

Truth is that people,as a rule, are blind to spiritual truths.

Rhefir, is Jesus enough for you?

In Jesus you are given everything from God.
 
Dear friend,

You will find a number of people on the board who have been through similar circumstances....that's why we are here.

Find your fellowship here. Learn to lead your home here. Lead to be a worthy husband here. Learn to be a man here.

Koinonia and Maranatha!
 
My dear brother,

The book of James has much to offer to you in words of encouragement. I am sorry for your pain.

I'm sure many can testify to your struggles herein.

Hopefully, in due time when enough scholars and respectable bible teachers begin to write about this subject there will at the least be a willingness among people to discuss the matter in love.

Like many other movements, when they first begin many meet a strong lack of intolerance to even a strong spirit of animosity. It is one thing to disagree. But so few today, even fewer than those who affirm this view/doctrine on marriage or other somewhat controversial doctrines, are able to disagree in a kind and gracious way.

Hang on though. The Lord shall help you and he shall place others in your path will will be of comfort to you, even if they may not agree with you, and some who will agree with you.

Dr. Allen
 
Welcome to the board! Sorry to hear about your struggles. I'll be praying for you.
 
Hello Robert,
I will also be praying for you. My family and I have know this sense of disfellowship, though through other causes. We suffered much slander from our community because we held a view concerning appropriate ages of two (adult) people who were dating. We found ourselves in the crux of an entire church melting down. The church actually fell apart during this time and we notice that many look at us very differently (if not completely avoid us) because the church fell apart at the time that this disagreement came out. There were obviously many factors involved in the church's disolution that just came to a head at that particular moment. The fact that this argument happened at just that very moment in time made it easy for people to equate us with the church's fall.

That was last Autumn. Since then, I have come to the understanding of the sanctity of polygynous marriage. One can only imagine the ammount of tongue wagging that would occur with that church had I brought plural marriage into the discussion. Having been so thouroughly ousted from fellowship has not been easy and created a lot of fear for my wife where getting to trust a new congregation is concerned.

In finding a new body to fellowship with, I am constantly reminded of a discussion we once had in a pre-marital counseling small group. When the bible speaks of "Leaving and cleaving", it can best be described in the agricultural terms of grafting a tree or vine. When you "leave" one branch or vine, you are cut away from it. If you are placed into the "Cleft" of another branch or vine, the wound from the cuts, yours and theirs, can grow together and form something new that was not possible before.

I hope that helps my friend. Again, I will keep you in prayer. Feel free to PM me or Facebook me if you would like someone to talk to.
 
As I discovered these same truths I continued to attend a large nondenominational church I had been attending for many years. I began to pay closer attention to the message and the scriptures used to support their particular doctrine. Eventually I simply couldn't attend anymore because I only wanted to confront their heresies of the true Word of God on a number of topics. I left on my own because I did not see that church as the Body of Christ, but rather a collection of those wanting their ears tickled, and leadership in the church that was more interested in the collection plate than the true Word of God. Ironically their radio program is called "Simple Truth".

Eventually they discovered why I left, and through the grapevine I have heard a number of things that do not surprise me in the least. You have to understand that the majority of those sitting in the pews may claim to be Christian but their actions testify against them. What I have found interesting is that I have yet to meet anyone that can argue the monogamy doctrine from the scriptures logically. I have met many that cite passages that have nothing to do with the issue and attempt to twist them into something they are not, but that is what is required to support any heresy. Every argument I have been confronted with personally or seen on the Internet is easily debunked by addressing the fact that my God does not change; therefore He either approves or condemns polygyny. I have been unable to find a single passage where a man repents for having more than one wife as if it were sinful, a prophet confronting a man for having more than one wife (except in the case of David’s adultery), or God issuing a statement or command indicating that He disapproves.

Do not look for the praises of man, but hold fast to your heritage in the Lord.

Romans 2:28-29 For no one is a Jew who is merely one outwardly, nor is circumcision outward and physical. But a Jew is one inwardly, and circumcision is a matter of the heart, by the Spirit, not by the letter. His praise is not from man but from God.

(Emphasis added)

The three best things to ward off depression when dealing with the tests of life: 1) spend more time reading scriptures, 2) exercise…yes…it makes a big difference, 3) spend time in prayer (#3 because it is hard to pray when you are depressed, do #1 & #2 to minimize your depression then #3). These are the things Martin Luther used to battle his depression and look at the circumstances he faced!
 
Scarecrow said:
These are the things Martin Luther used to battle his depression and look at the circumstances he faced!
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Really? I thought it was beer busts and long theological discussions on Saturday nights ... :lol:

Seriously, good advice.

As to churches ... Jesus said, "Blessed are ye when men shall persecute you and say all manner of evil against you, wrongly, for my sake.

So do right, ignore the persecution, and move forward in the blessing of God. You'll find new folks to fellowship who aren't subject to the Jezebel Spirit that seems to havebeenat work in your formerchurch.
 
All,

Thanks for the words of encouragement and the prayers ... I feel bad and angry at the same time ... My former brothers choose to believe the lie ... even when confronted with truth ... I really hate this world ... Come quickly Lord Jesus.

God Bless!
 
They're still brothers, my friend. Refuse to let their current blindness stand between you, and make it constantly clear that you don't. Who knows what future day God may suddenly melt the scales off of their eyes? It could even be today!

However, I agree -- come quickly Lord Jesus.
 
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