I joined BF over 10 years ago. I am not sure if I have an Introduction on here or not.
Anyway, my Polygamy Central Texas group just passed 500 members, and to celebrate that fact I wrote an bio over there. I will re-post it here for your amusement. There is a lot more that could be said, but it is already too long.
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When I first started this group most of the people knew my wife and I. Since then a lot of people have joined that I do not know. I thought I would use this occasion of 500 members to do a re-introduction.
I am a 58 year old Christian. I have a good job in the tech industry. I have been married to my dear wife Ruth Ann for over 37 years. We have 5 children, 2 still living at home. I have one granddaughter so far.
I supposed I have never really been a one woman kind of man. Whenever I was in a relationship with a woman, it never really stopped me from being attracted to another one and wanting to get to know her. However, when I got married I accepted the narrative of one woman per man without really questioning it or looking into it. I was aware of polygamy in the Bible, but considered it a strange anachronism.
In fact I remember once defending marriage as being for one man and one woman on usenet back in the 90s when this atheist was saying that he was for "Biblical Marriage", but did not think his girlfriend would go for it.
Things changed for us when my wife and I started watching "Big Love", the HBO show that came out in 2006. We loved it right from the start and I remember my wife remarking that she wished it was more socially acceptable. From that I started poking around on the internet and found Christians who supported polygamy and I started studying their positions and watching online debates about the topic. It did not take me long to realize that the polygamists seemed to have better arguments and before long I began to take the same position.
I have been active on and off for over 10 years with Biblical Families: (https://www.biblicalfamilies.org/)
I have met many plural families and they are all very nice. It takes a lot of character to make a plural family work, so those that are successful are usually high character people and fun to be around. There are more around than you might think (including a number of them in this group), but they lay low for obvious reasons.
I have flirted with adding a second wife on three occasions. The first was a single mother who was on Biblical Families for a while and she got to chatting with me and we chatted online for almost a year. I used to work the weekend night shift and it was very slow and we used to chat a lot. Anyway sort of out of the blue she announced that she thought that God wanted her to marry me. I think she felt like she knew me better than I felt I knew her. She was very secretive on Facebook and I was very open. I didn't even know what she looked like. However she was a good conversationalist and I was interested. She lived up in Dallas so I suggested that my wife and I go up and meet her for coffee. She balked at that. She wanted to meet me alone. I balked at that because I felt like I did not really know her that well. You know when women say "friends, first" don't you believe it. They often want romance first. Anyway it sort of went downhill from there and she ended up unfriending me. I have often thought that if you can't have a serious discussion and stay friends you were never really friends anyway. Not sure what happened to her, but I wish her well.
The second was a single mother that I met on the Sister Wives dating site (the only real prospect I found on there). We compared notes and found out that we had a lot in common. I agreed to bring my family to her church and then go out for dinner afterwards. She wanted to keep it on the down low, because she was being supported by her church and she was afraid that she would lose her support. The first date was a lot of fun. She was really cute, because she was really nervous. She came in and gave my wife a big hug when they first met (good move!). We had a great dinner. She almost seemed too good to be true. We want out a couple more times after that. It was not long before I noticed that she was sort of autistic. Anyway she decided that I was not her type, and we called it off. She is still a good family friend and I am still fond of her.
Lastly, I was good friends with a single mom and a family of kids. We had known her for about 8 years. I really enjoyed her company and that of her kids, but she kind of rubbed my wife the wrong way. Also she has had a child with another man and they were often in contention about raising him. While polygamy is not often prosecuted it can be used against in certain cases, like custody hearings. For these reasons I thought she was not a good candidate, so I tried to keep my distance from her, but on the other hand I was super attracted to her. The chemistry was undeniable and seemed to grow even when I did not see her. For example if I had not seen her in 6 months it seemed like we had seen each other the whole time. One thing led to another and one night I took her to dinner and asked her to marry me. She did not have a polygamy background so I gave her time to think about it. My wife was not happy at first, but she agreed to welcome her into the family. At this point I thought I was going to be a polygamist. But then it seemed like my potential was not sure. So I kept trying to get a yes answer from her, but she was unable to make a decision. One night she asked me to come over and promised me an answer, but still she did not answer. It got complicated and went downhill from there. We went back and forth and then eventually stopped talking. That was a little over 2 years ago. I heard from her during the pandemic last month or so. But the conversation went downhill again and we have stopped talking again.
Also, I once officiated a polygamist wedding when a good friend decided to take a second wife. That relationship did not last, so if I ever agree to do it again I think I will demand to do pre-marital counseling!
Where are we at now? I am still open to it, but not really working to make it happen. I am content with my life as it is now and content to leave it to God's will. I often say in polygamy groups that "I have room in my house, I have room in my family, and I have room in my heart.". I still feel this way, but God only knows if someone will ever fill that space. In the meantime we got a cute puppy.
Anyway, my Polygamy Central Texas group just passed 500 members, and to celebrate that fact I wrote an bio over there. I will re-post it here for your amusement. There is a lot more that could be said, but it is already too long.
--
When I first started this group most of the people knew my wife and I. Since then a lot of people have joined that I do not know. I thought I would use this occasion of 500 members to do a re-introduction.
I am a 58 year old Christian. I have a good job in the tech industry. I have been married to my dear wife Ruth Ann for over 37 years. We have 5 children, 2 still living at home. I have one granddaughter so far.
I supposed I have never really been a one woman kind of man. Whenever I was in a relationship with a woman, it never really stopped me from being attracted to another one and wanting to get to know her. However, when I got married I accepted the narrative of one woman per man without really questioning it or looking into it. I was aware of polygamy in the Bible, but considered it a strange anachronism.
In fact I remember once defending marriage as being for one man and one woman on usenet back in the 90s when this atheist was saying that he was for "Biblical Marriage", but did not think his girlfriend would go for it.
Things changed for us when my wife and I started watching "Big Love", the HBO show that came out in 2006. We loved it right from the start and I remember my wife remarking that she wished it was more socially acceptable. From that I started poking around on the internet and found Christians who supported polygamy and I started studying their positions and watching online debates about the topic. It did not take me long to realize that the polygamists seemed to have better arguments and before long I began to take the same position.
I have been active on and off for over 10 years with Biblical Families: (https://www.biblicalfamilies.org/)
I have met many plural families and they are all very nice. It takes a lot of character to make a plural family work, so those that are successful are usually high character people and fun to be around. There are more around than you might think (including a number of them in this group), but they lay low for obvious reasons.
I have flirted with adding a second wife on three occasions. The first was a single mother who was on Biblical Families for a while and she got to chatting with me and we chatted online for almost a year. I used to work the weekend night shift and it was very slow and we used to chat a lot. Anyway sort of out of the blue she announced that she thought that God wanted her to marry me. I think she felt like she knew me better than I felt I knew her. She was very secretive on Facebook and I was very open. I didn't even know what she looked like. However she was a good conversationalist and I was interested. She lived up in Dallas so I suggested that my wife and I go up and meet her for coffee. She balked at that. She wanted to meet me alone. I balked at that because I felt like I did not really know her that well. You know when women say "friends, first" don't you believe it. They often want romance first. Anyway it sort of went downhill from there and she ended up unfriending me. I have often thought that if you can't have a serious discussion and stay friends you were never really friends anyway. Not sure what happened to her, but I wish her well.
The second was a single mother that I met on the Sister Wives dating site (the only real prospect I found on there). We compared notes and found out that we had a lot in common. I agreed to bring my family to her church and then go out for dinner afterwards. She wanted to keep it on the down low, because she was being supported by her church and she was afraid that she would lose her support. The first date was a lot of fun. She was really cute, because she was really nervous. She came in and gave my wife a big hug when they first met (good move!). We had a great dinner. She almost seemed too good to be true. We want out a couple more times after that. It was not long before I noticed that she was sort of autistic. Anyway she decided that I was not her type, and we called it off. She is still a good family friend and I am still fond of her.
Lastly, I was good friends with a single mom and a family of kids. We had known her for about 8 years. I really enjoyed her company and that of her kids, but she kind of rubbed my wife the wrong way. Also she has had a child with another man and they were often in contention about raising him. While polygamy is not often prosecuted it can be used against in certain cases, like custody hearings. For these reasons I thought she was not a good candidate, so I tried to keep my distance from her, but on the other hand I was super attracted to her. The chemistry was undeniable and seemed to grow even when I did not see her. For example if I had not seen her in 6 months it seemed like we had seen each other the whole time. One thing led to another and one night I took her to dinner and asked her to marry me. She did not have a polygamy background so I gave her time to think about it. My wife was not happy at first, but she agreed to welcome her into the family. At this point I thought I was going to be a polygamist. But then it seemed like my potential was not sure. So I kept trying to get a yes answer from her, but she was unable to make a decision. One night she asked me to come over and promised me an answer, but still she did not answer. It got complicated and went downhill from there. We went back and forth and then eventually stopped talking. That was a little over 2 years ago. I heard from her during the pandemic last month or so. But the conversation went downhill again and we have stopped talking again.
Also, I once officiated a polygamist wedding when a good friend decided to take a second wife. That relationship did not last, so if I ever agree to do it again I think I will demand to do pre-marital counseling!
Where are we at now? I am still open to it, but not really working to make it happen. I am content with my life as it is now and content to leave it to God's will. I often say in polygamy groups that "I have room in my house, I have room in my family, and I have room in my heart.". I still feel this way, but God only knows if someone will ever fill that space. In the meantime we got a cute puppy.
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