For those theologically inclined: twice this week I've been contacted for folks looking for more input on this verses, as someone used it as the major hammer in the NT against polygamy, with them. This is always a tough verse to clearly interpret, admittedly.
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
I've pointed them here: http://www.christianpoly.org/divorce.php (Half-way down.)
And to Tom Shipley, Man and Woman in Biblical Law, p133, Chapter 41:
http://www.newcovenantpatriarchy.com/images/uploads/Man_&_Woman_in_Biblical_Law_5.pdf
which is lengthy, and I'll include below.
Does anyone else have a good written understanding of these passages, either of their own creation, or another source?
Thanks, Nathan
11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her.
12 And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
I've pointed them here: http://www.christianpoly.org/divorce.php (Half-way down.)
And to Tom Shipley, Man and Woman in Biblical Law, p133, Chapter 41:
http://www.newcovenantpatriarchy.com/images/uploads/Man_&_Woman_in_Biblical_Law_5.pdf
which is lengthy, and I'll include below.
Does anyone else have a good written understanding of these passages, either of their own creation, or another source?
Thanks, Nathan
The New Covenant and Polygamy, Matthew 19:3-12
“From the beginning it was not so.”
Matthew 19:3-12 (and parallel Mark 10:2-12) is the most commonly cited passage appealed to by
those who propose a “monogamy-only” ethic as being the ethic endorsed and mandated by the Bible.
The reason that this passage is particularly important is because, first of all, it is a New Testament
pronouncement of the Lord; and secondly, because the Lord appeals to the authority of the creation
purpose of God in Genesis (which is, remember, an Old Covenant scripture).
“Monogamy only” adherents assert that there is in Matthew 19 an abolition and annulling of at least
three Old Covenant laws, in reference to 1) divorce, 2) the very definition of adultery and 3)
polygamy. That is a very presumptuous path to be cutting in view of Jesus’ own warning in the same
Gospel to not think that he had come to destroy/nullify the Law, even to the least of the
commandments. I refer the reader back to what I said in the two articles, “ ‘Contradictions’ Between
Genesis and the Law.” And I exhort the “monogamy-only” crowd to get their theology square with
Matthew 5:17-19. I reiterate once again, we are not dealing with ceremonial ordinances but with
moral law when we discuss marriage.
3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful
for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them
at the beginning made them male and female.
5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to
his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined
together, let not man put asunder.
7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement,
and to put her away?
8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to
put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication,
and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put
10 His disciples say unto him, If the case of the man be so with his wife, it is not
good to marry.
11 But he said unto them, All men cannot receive this saying, save they to whom it is
given.
12 For there are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother’s womb: and
there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men; and there be eunuchs,
which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He that is
able to receive it, let him receive it.
It is to be pointed out, first of all, that the subject matter is divorce and not polygamy. If there is
anything here in this passage which is relevant to polygamy, it must be by way of inference,
implication and deduction. Now there is nothing wrong with drawing valid logical inferences, but
many commentators treat Matthew 19 as if it is an explicit teaching on polygamy, which it manifestly
is not, and as if Christ is asserting a fundamental change in the Law of Moses regarding marriage law,
which is a proposition impossible to reconcile with Matthew 5:17-19.
I have already quoted Greg Bahnsen’s rock-solid commentary on Matthew 19:8 and now do so again.
“Some commentators have mistakenly viewed this word as indicating a deprecated
toleration of a positive evil (i.e., reluctantly forbearing something against which you
have strong scruples or detest). Such a connotation must be read into the word. It is
used quite simply for the giving of candid permission (without overtones of
disapprobation). When ‘epitrepo’ is used elsewhere in the NT there is no reason to
think that the person using it intends to approve of something that he considers
definitely improper. It is primarily used for the gaining of authorization from a
superior...Jn. 19:38...Acts 21:39-40...Acts 26.1...Acts 27:3...Acts 28:16...Mat. 8:21...I
Cor.16:7...Heb. 6:3...Gen. 39:6 (LXX)...Est. 9:14...Job 32:14...Therefore it is
unwarranted to maintain that, in Matt. 19:8, Jesus represents the Mosaic law as
‘tolerating with disapproval’ an immoral activity, viz. divorce.
“The verse simply reports that Moses authorized the use of divorce. One should note,
in passing, that the commentators who read the connotation of disapproval-of-animmoral-
activity into the word ‘epitrepo’ fail to justify their view that an all holy God
could enact an immoral law. How, one must ask in astonishment, could the God who
is ‘of purer eyes than to behold evil and cannot look on iniquity’ (Hab. 1:13), the just
Lord who ‘will do no iniquity’ (Zeph. 3:5), tolerate the legislation of immorality in
His law, which is itself perfect, right, pure, and righteous altogether (Ps. 19:07-9).
Even leaving linguistic considerations aside this theological difficulty with the view
is insurmountable.” — (“Theonomy in Christian Ethics,” n. pg. 102)
Bahnsen’s comments are more than sufficient to refute the notion of God “tolerating sin” via His
laws. But what about the notion that the New Covenant brings with it a redefinition of sin and change
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of standard? Is what Christ taught in Matthew 19 about divorce different than the Old Covenant
standard? (Again, reference and consult Matthew 5:17-19).
“Except it be for porneia”
In the Hebrew, Deuteronomy 24:1 states that a husband must find “nakedness of a thing”
(“uncleanness” in the KJV) as a basis for divorcing his wife. What else can this phrase, “nakedness of
a thing,” refer to other than that which men and women do when they are naked, that is, engage in
sexual relations? This is more than my own guesswork. The Hebrew translators of the Septuagint
(250 B.C.) translating the Old Testament into Greek for Greek-speaking Hebrews, translated
“nakedness of a thing” as “porneia,” the Greek word for the English “fornication.”
It is manifest, therefore, that the Old Testament requirement for a man to divorce his wife was an act
of fornication on the part of the wife. Is not this precisely the same standard that Jesus proclaims?
How, then, do so many commentators perceive an alteration of Old Testament law in these words of
Jesus? Where is the basis for such a contention? Jesus simply reasserts the Old Covenant law.
What, then, does Jesus mean by “from the beginning it was not so?” Quite simply, that from the
beginning, when there was no sin, there was no provision for divorce. But, man fell into sin, and
subsequently hard-hearted men commit adultery with other men’s wives and hard-hearted women
commit adultery and other acts of fornication against their husbands. Divorce comes in on the heels of
sin because it is necessary to punish sin, which is what divorce is, a punishment, a sanction (in
essence, a disinheritance).
We see in Matthew 19 zero evidence for any allowance of evil by God, and we see here zero evidence
for any alteration of divorce law from the Old Covenant, Mosaic standard. And is this not precisely
what we should have expected to find given Jesus’ pronouncement in Matthew 5:17-19 that he had
not come to abolish/nullify the Law but ratify it?
So what of the supposed inference from this passage that there is a change of law with respect to
polygamy? Since the law on divorce is the same, why would there be a change of law with respect to
polygamy?
But some will reply, “Does not Christ’s pronouncement that putting away a wife and marrying a
second constitutes adultery invalidate polygamy?” To which I reply, no, that is a comparing of apples
and oranges. Polygamy is not the circumstance addressed, but the substitution of one wife with
another and the dissolution of the one-flesh marital bond with the first wife in so doing. Serial
monogamy and divorce is the scenario. Where is the offense against the first marriage and the first
wife when a man takes a second wife but does not put away the first wife but maintains the one-flesh
relation with her? The putting away of the first wife is essential for the adultery to occur.
We see a virtually identical factual circumstance described in Exodus 21:10-11a: “if he take him
another wife her...duty of marriage shall he not diminish. And if he do not (this) unto her...”
Note the context described by verses 10-11a: here we have a man who takes a second wife and a defacto
putting away of the first wife in the desertion of the marriage bed. This is the same factual
situation described by Christ in Matthew 19. What is the consequence of these actions of the man? “If
he do not (this) unto her (i.e., maintain sexual relations) she shall go out free without money.”
The first wife described in this scenario, a concubine/servant wife, has the right to divorce her master.
But note well: it is not the addition of a second wife which occasions this right but the failure of the
husband to maintain “the duty of marriage” with the first wife. In other words, according to Exodus
21:10-11, the man must be guilty of adultery by these acts in coordination. This is not stated
explicitly, but note that the redress for the woman is divorce, so are we not, therefore, redressing
adultery, an offense against the marital bond?
If someone would take exception to the proposition that verse 11 is a divorce provision, consider that
concubinage is a package deal. The objective of selling one’s daughter as a maidservant (concubine)
is marriage. Exodus 21:3, pertaining to male servants, stipulates that in the seventh year they shall
“go out free” from their master, the same language used in verse 11 pertaining to the concubine. Verse
7 states, “If a man sell his daughter to be a maidservant, she shall not go out as the menservants do.”
The reason that the female servants do not “go out free” from their masters is because marriage is
involved in concubinage, and “going out free” would involve dissolving the marriage. It becomes
clear when comparing verses 3, 7 and 11 that verse 11 is unquestionably a divorce provision.
The consistency of Christ’s teaching in Matthew 19 with Exodus 21:10-11 is so tight, and the factual
circumstances described so identical, that it is hard to believe that he was not in fact reiterating
precisely the law of Exodus 21:10-11 there, but with the additional circumstance of polygamy
factored in in Exodus 21:10-11. Without the cessation of sexual relations, there is no basis to “go out
free” from the marriage. The invalidation of polygamy, therefore, must be read into and superimposed
upon Matthew 19.
Finally, what about Jesus’ pronouncement, “From the beginning it was not so?” Is this not an
endorsement of a basic principle, and since what we see in the beginning is God’s act of giving one
wife to Adam, is not Christ thereby endorsing monogamy as the standard for marriage? This question
has already been sufficiently answered in the introductory article to this work, “In Defense of
Patriarchy.” What we see from the beginning is patriarchy. And patriarchy involves the validity of
polygyny. One cannot reason solely from the basis of an example that the example is fully normative
in all of its aspects for all men. An example occurs in a context and may very well be one form of
manifestation of a more general principle with more than one form of expression. And that is what we
see in Genesis: we see an example of patriarchy in the monogamous marriage of Adam to Eve. And
we see examples of patriarchy in the polygamy of other men in the Bible. The general, universal
principle is patriarchy; both monogamy and polygamy fulfill this mandate.