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Hey there my Sisters in Christ,

Just checking in again to see if you've had a chance, or even an interest in the post: "Godly/Fun Ways to Bless & Serve our Husbands?" Thanks by the way Heather(SeekHim1), for your wonderful contribution to the post. As always you shared some very timely/helpful wisdom on the topic. :)

Would love to hear from Lutherangirl, Kelly Deanne, DeAnne, Sweetlissa, JulieB, Cindy, Chaplins Rose, Denise, Fine Jade and so many of the other awesome Sisters in Christ here on this topic! You all have been such a strong/sweet source of encouragement to many of us here. As I do know how busy us momma's/wives are, it would mean allot to us all, if we could all get out of our usual "comfort zones, & the daily grind of this life," to consider sharing some Godly practical and fun ways to Bless & Serve our dh's. :) Especially fitting I thought, seeing as we're currently reading/discussing the topic of Godly balanced Submission with our book study. Just thought it would be a way to "be the hands & feet of Christ," in order to come up along side one another to support, pray for & encourage each other in the lovely lost art of Submission. Instead of the usual "teachable moment mini lectures on the matter," that weather we mean to or not, can come off as somewhat judgmental or harsh at times. ;) Okay enough from me, as I don't mean to bug or be a hindrance in any way! Go forth in His Might, Power, Love & Sound Mind!

SISTERS IN CHRIST,
F.S. :)
 
Am I allowed to respond again?!? ;) I have really blown it lately, so I have lots I could share. So knowing I've blown it, you should know I'm definitely not lecturing. One thing is that we really need to be careful to not be our husband's critic - period - at any time. I can't say this enough. And especially if you are living PM and feel hubby is being unfair, do NOT complain to hubby. And even if we think we are communicating a need, it could still be perceived as a complaint. Our best bet is to take it ALL to the LORD --- pray about it --- and wait for the LORD to handle the situation. If you are being treated unfairly, wait for the LORD to deliver you. PM aside, no matter what it is we may think our hubby is doing wrong, just take it to the LORD. It's better not to say anything. If you feel flesh rising up quickly and often, try fasting --- even if it's just from sundown to sundown. It really does wonders at getting your flesh under control. You could also fast for hubby - that could bless him - if you see he's stressed or struggling in some way.

Gotta run...

Heather
 
Oh Cindy,
That had to be the best post ever. Amen, amen! It summed up all the stuff God has spoken in His word. Now maybe by the time I'm 90 I'll learn to do all of it all the time. One of the ways that Ray has described that he feels I help him is that in addition to God, I'm the one who "has his back".

Here's a fun idea (in addition to everything already mentioned): A year or two ago, I ordered some jojoba oil (it's supposed to be one of the best things for skin), and a couple of little samples of cedar and orange blossom to add to it (the whole order was probably $10 or $15). Just pm me anybody, and I'll send you the link. Anyway, I started taking it out at night, and massaging Ray's tired feet with it. It always blessed him so much, and made the whole room smell delicious, too! He had some dry skin at the time, and boy, did it fix that up right away. Think I'll go look for that stuff. It's been too long since I did that for him. ;)

Thanks again, Cindy, for your wise, loving, and encouraging words. Cecil must be a very happy guy to have you!
--Kelly Deanne :D
 
Oh bless your sweet heart Cindy!

I surely didn't mean to bug or pressure you to post so quickly here! :shock: As I knew you were busy tending to that man of yours that God blessed ya with. You both are blessed to have one another, and am thankful for God's healing touch on Cecil. Even though this road to recovery seems to be somewhat long and drawn out, God is with you both during this time of need. (Jeremiah 29:11) :) I will for sure continue to pray for God's mercies, grace, wisdom and His healing touch according to the plans He has for you both. I so appreciate you taking the time to post and share your heart and very thoughtful & helpful tips on this topic! :)

Wow oh wow, how did you get a hold of my list of a million things that I need to work on with my dh?! :lol: So true, so true girl. Forgive me as I mean no disrespect or to poke fun, as I do agree a %100. But that list of mine that ya found out about, kind of reminds me of the looong list of the O.T. laws that almost seem impossible to keep! :o But all joking aside, it was a very good, thought provoking & wise list of submissive duties to set out to accomplish on a daily basis, with our appointed places in our marriages as our dh's helpmeets! That's why I say Prayer is oh so very important in our marriages, along with daily bible study and trying our best by partnering up with God (not in our might & power) but in His, to do His and our dh's will in all things. Easier said than done, as we're all simple fallen sinners till the day we die. Sure is a blessing to have other Sisters in Christ, to come up along side of us when we fall. To help cheer us on and challenge us to grow in the Lord & in our Submission. Sweet friends to help us wipe off the dirt, pick up the pieces & getting going again. And that's what you lovely ladies in Christ do here for so many of us! :) Thanks again Cindy for taking the time to contribute to this post and be a helpful blessing! God be with thee, guide thee & bless thee! Please send Cecil our prayers & well wishes.

Warm Wishes,
Sisters in Christ,
F.S. :)

WE CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS, WHO STRENGTHENS US!
JEREMIAH 29:11
 
Hey there Cindy,

Good to hear from ya girl! :D Thanks again for taking the time to post in the middle of all of Cecil's needs & health issues. Please forgive me if I was offensive in any way, as I tend to have the spiritual gift of sassyness & humor that isn't always properly applied at the right time :? As dh doesn't quite think my sense of humor is a spiritual gift all of the time either! :oops: LOL!

I totally agree with all of the Godly wisdom that you shared with us on this particular topic. I agree that dying to self & our submission is something that we all need to work on, on a daily basis. For me, I've found it helpful & good to have either lists, or prayer journals where we can keep track of prayer requests, study, answered prayers. These lists/journals are a source of self encouragement to challenge myself to grow in the area of submission. I've actually started a prayer journal where I do try to keep track of all of these very issues. Keeping them lifted in prayer & sharing them with my dh for his prayer support & any input he may wish to share with me, about my growth or short comings with with my submission & obedience with him & Yeshua. I also try to keep a daily household duties and chore list going. Asking for my dh's input with that as well. I do other simpler things to bless him as I shared in my earlier post as well. Making what he desires for dinner, candles, good plates at times. Sometimes I like to have comfy clothes ready for him to change into, & out of his work clothes when he's had a long hard work day. I also will offer to draw him a bath or just time to escape life, by goofing off with our kiddos and playing video games. Of course I don't mean to sound as though "I allow him to do anything," as I do my best to not nag, whine, complain. Again, trying my best to never tell him what to do when about anything. But as Cindy & others here have admitted, we all fail at times! I'm currently working on the "selfish & needy bug that's roaming around and infecting my brain as of late!" :shock: :oops: Anywho, thanks again so much for those of you who are stepping up to the plate as Sisters in the faith! Thanks for offering a hand up in Christ, and not the old stand by of condemnation in Christ! ;) You all are a source of God's wisdom, encouragement & blessing in the family of God! :D

Warm Wishes for God's Wisdom & Joy for the Journey!
F.S.

I PRAY THAT I BE NOT A HINDRANCE!
JEREMIAH 29:11 - One of my all time fav's too Cindy. ;)
 
Oh btw Kelly Deanne,

I just love your posts as well. You crack me up girl, "maybe when I'm 90 I'll be able to do the whole list(Gods will for wives), all of the time!" :lol: LOL - I probably won't until I'm 100, guess we'll be good company! ;) All kidding aside, it is a wise & worthy investment with our marriages that we've been blessed with, to strive to be the Proverbs 31 & Titus 2 women/wives of the faith that we're all called to be. Which is all of the things that Cindy had mentioned. Doing our best to Keep on Keepin on with Yeshua, family & friends. Striving to be a helpful blessing for His Kingdom & others. Being blessed in return along the path that He's placed us on, according to the pure/noble motives of our hearts! :) Lord willing, I hope to be blessed to meet you lovely Sisters in Christ one day. Before I'm 50 would be a bonus! :lol:

FOR HIS KINGDOM - BOTH MONO & POLY,
Faithful (not perfect) Servant :)

P.S. I'm gonna try to send ya a pm or give ya a call Kelly Deanne & get that info for the oil you mentioned.
I think my dh would enjoy & appreciate it as well.
 
Deanne said:
Oh Cindy, ... Cecil must be a very happy guy to have you!
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Oh, he is, HE IS! ;)
 
Hey there Cecil,

Thanks for being a brave man and crossing the border over to the ladies side of the mountain! :lol: So cool to see both you & your awesome wife Cindy post here! Nothing like hearing from a Godly/fun loving couple such as yourselves. I say that you're both blessed to have each other, and I look forward to the day when God might allow our paths to cross. Guess I better getting going on all of the wise tips you both shared with me, to start saving up my traveling pennies for a road trip out to a retreat one day. And while I'm at it, I know that I need to work on that wise, helpful & challenging list that your dear wife shared with us ladies yesterday. The one that challenges us to grow in the area of submission and be a blessing to our men. Not that we don't want to do these things for our dear husbands, just that at times it's hard to do when being stuck in these earthly sinful bodies of ours. :oops: But hey now, we're all a work in progress! As long as our heart motives are in the right place, lining up our will with God's, then we can do our best to keep fighting the good fight. While fighting it, doing our best to not allow the devil into our marriages or families, not even a foothold! So anywho, thanks again for posting here Cecil - just loved it! :P

Warm Wishes,
F.S.
 
Don't forget some of the obvious things. Listen to him and what he drops as "hints" or "wishes", then do that. For example, James will sometimes say something like, you know what, I could really go for some of that chicken fried steak you make for dinner, we haven't had it in a while. So, I take the hint and say nothing but gather the stuff and just make it for dinner the first night he is home for dinner. He will hint at other things like a stain on a shirt or his desk being messy (granted, his mess LOL) or some little thing he needs to remember from the store like batteries or whatever. I write it down and make sure I get the items or take care of the stuff even though he never actually asked me to do it. It shows you are listening for one, and for another that you care about the little things. Sometimes, the biggest gifts are in the smallest of details.

Becca
 
He loves my stack of scriptures that I've compiled for him arranged by category. He loves the years of tapes, CDs, and now podcasts that I've made for him with my voice speaking these scriptures. Sometimes they are in prayer fashion and sometimes just straight. Recently I've spiced it up with a little classical piano in the background. He listens to them in the car, on his computer, on his ipod working out, etc.... It is an ongoing project because his needs change and the Lord shows me what his needs are as I continue to pray for him. He tells me that this is the best gift and thanks me all the time!
 
Wow Fine Jade!

Thanks for sharing on this topic. Great idea, and what a great way to share Godly wisdom with the love of your life! :) I don't think that I would have ever thought of that. Thanks for taking the time to offer up some support & encouragement with other Sisters in Christ here. This is where "the rubber hits the road,"as they say. Very thoughtful, practical and loving ways to bless our dh's even in the spiritual realm. We too are blessed with Godly wisdom, when we do our best to be tapped into the Lord and His will for our very lives. As our hearts cry for our Savior, for our dh's and for our families are heard & blessed through prayer, we are then able to encourage our husbands spiritually as well. The lovely lost art of Godly Submission can be fulfilled through Sweet, Respectful and obedient encouragement. Through Open/Honest & Loving communication with our dh's. Another gift that God has blessed us all with, Godly Communication. Not taking the lead, manipulating or complaining, but lovingly & Wisely covering our dh's in prayer. What an amazing way to cover them in the scriptures, in such a beautiful and creative way as Finde Jade has come up with. You Go Girl!!!! :D Thanks again for sharing.

Warm Wishes,
F.S. :)
 
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