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Ladies,

Just a quick note to tell you that we now have completely private forums for both men and women. If you can not see them right now it is because you have not been accepted in to that particular group. To gain access to the private women's forum follow these steps:

1) Click on "User Control Panel" near the top of your browser window
2) Click on the "Usergroups" tab
3) Click on the circle to the right of the "Women" group to select that group
4) Make sure "Join Selected" is selected in the drop down menu at the bottom and then click on the "Submit" button to the right of that

This will put you in application status until one of the group leaders approves you. After you are approved you will be able to see a new forum appear in the main forum listing. This forum is titled "BF Women's Member Forum" and is only visible to those who have been approved and will not be visible to anyone else. If you are married, be sure to log off when you are done though.

Through this forum you will be able to post anything you want just for the women without the men or casual reader being able to see it. Hope to see you there.

Ladies, if you share your login name with your husband, please take a few minutes and create your own name. This forum is to be a place that women can talk freely and openly without the idea of any man reading their stuff. So in order to preserve that privacy, we need the women to log in separately from their husbands.

Thanks everyone,

SweetLissa
 
need for prayer

My hubby and I belong to a group that ministers to the outlaw biker gangs. he was a member of a nationally known gang for most of his life and when he was saved they never had a problem with it on the contrary the often came to him for advice. This year the organization split in half and one group had a major issue with christianity. On the weekend of the 4th of July we were basically ambushed during a camping trip in the woods.My husband and another brother were tortured and tazed with tazzer guns.the other brother was tortured and beaten for 4 hours while we didn't know if he was dead or alive.he suffered 2 fractured ribs,broken nose and lost a tooth.Guns were at my children's heads.We saw first hand satan declare war on God.We also saw the hand of God miraculously deliver us by means of my 12 yr.old.he boldly faced one of the men and told him"It's ok,if you have to shoot me.I'm ready to die cuz I'm going to heaven with Jesus." somehow the Lord got us out of there in the back of the pickup truck of the same man that led them to ambush us.
It's been a month and my son and I have not only forgiven these men but we pray for their salvation.My husband is not having it that easy. he hasn't walked away from the Lord but, he's definitely facing in that direction. I understand that as a man he feels he failed to protect his family.We keep telling him how proud we were of his standing up for Jesus even with a gun pointed at all our heads.He still reads the Bible,prays but his anger seems to be escalating. he hasn't become abusive with us but has started to lose his temper with me and the boys for no reason.he's become controlling of our money to the point that we have become heavily debted and refuses to get a job.My 17 yr old son and I are the ones working.He spends his time with men who are not christian and use drugs and drink.
This week he informed me that he is going to use his unemployment check to take our older motorcycle out of the shop(they stole our Harley during the July incident)and he will be leaving to NM to work for a trucking company.No previous warning.Not only is he leaving us in a financial bind,but the house is in desperate need of repairs.We have no running water in most of the house,broken window, no shower facilities,and the floor in the bathroom is so dangerous we fall through it .
I don't know what else to do except put it in the Lord's hands.
I've gently reproved him in private with the Word, I've had 2 of the elders talk to him, and by now its gotten to the point where most of our male friends have spoken to him. It has fallen on deaf ears.
I told him today that if he decided to leave then so be it.I love him and pray for him but I can't do anything else.As we say,the ball is in his court.
Please pray for our family.Satan knows that by destroying this family he puts a damper on the ministry to bring the Word to the biker gangs.My husband is very well known within that community and his testimony has been a blessing to the ministry.All I can do is pray at this point,he just isn't listening.
 
Your husband has been through a lot. It is unfortunate that many people have trouble holding on to God during such stressful times. I have just started reading a book called "The Shack" which was recommended to me highly. It seems to deal with the violent death of a man's daughter and how he came to terms with it. You might read it or even have him read it.

SweetLissa
 
gypsyrose30,

Our prayers are with you and your family during this hard, hard time. When having a faith crisis in ones life is one of the most difficult things to walk thru. I commend you for doing your best at standing with your husband and showing him God's love even when he doesn't want to recieve it.

Hope for the future,
Julieb
 
A little update.Yesterday my husband got another job offer within our area.He now has 3 job offers on his hands. This morning he told me he needed to have some alone time to talk to God before he made any type of decision. I'm sort of relieved because I know he'll go take a walk in the woods and have that conversation and I pray that he will make himself submissive to God's decision not letting his own desires overpower God's voice.
I've been doing the Bible study book The Excellent Wife and I used some of their suggestions on dealing with these situations while still being submissive to your husband.Specially when discussing his friendship with one particular man who seems to have a lot of influence on my husband. This man is not a godly man and his counsel has had very negative results within our household.Even though I don't agree with him spending hours of time in this man's home where drugs flow all over the place,I just gently and respectfully stated to him that our 12yr. old son was not to visit this house because I had not appreciated this man smoking pot in front of him.When he started to defend his friend's right to do in his home whatever he wished,I showed him biblical proof of my position. He still doesn't agree,(he thinks I'm being over protective)but has agreed that since he isn't his biological father and the biological father would not approve,then he would not take him to his friend's house.
Please continue to pray for our family and I sincerely thank you for your prayers and support. God bless you all.
 
Gypsy,

Please know that you are covered in prayer. So sorry that you're family is going through this hard season, but God is the light at the end of your tunnel. As we know, the devil hates to see familie's growing in the Lord and working for His Glory. Your dh must have had an Awesome and Strong testimony in his previous work for the Lord, together with your family. It seems as though the evil one has struck up a tremendous storm of spiritual warfare in your husbands soul at this season of his life. Try your best to be the submissive and Christ honoring wife that Yeshua is calling you to be, but doing so within "healthy & Godly boundaries," for the safety of your children & whole family. And in stepping out in faith to Yeshua's call on your life, make it a point to put on the Full Armor of God and go Bodly to God's throne seeking His wisdom and Powerful Help along the way!

I pray that there are other strong & faithful Brothers & Sisters in Christ that can come up along side of you and your family and be supportive and a source of encouragement. I pray God's will be done first & foremost, and that Yeshua will see fit to place another strong man of God on your husbands path to speak Truth into his life. Speaking the Truth in Love, in a way in which your husband can receive, understand, respect and take his Godly council to heart. I pray for God's Comfort, Love & Peace to surround and Protect all of you at this season! :) Take care and Keep on Keepin on with Yeshua, family & friends.

Faithful Servant
 
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