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paterfamilias

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There is a bull session going on about who should give marriage advice that I am not going to get involved in but that did trigger a thought and a bit of curiosity.

Who here has the most time in to marriage?

Obviously the guys who are practicing plural marriage will have the significant advantage as they can accumulate via multiples and as most are middle aged to...call it matured like a fine wine as opposed to asking you if you need to sit down for a little while...that could add up to some pretty big numbers.

I will start off with 45+
I suspect that will be trounced in short order, but until then the answer is Me...I should be giving marriage advice.
Do see the girl in reception as you leave to set an appointment. Remember the rules are cash up front and a decent bottle of bourbon or Irish
 
Total years that the man has been married, or cumulative counting the number of years with each wife?

Years don’t necessarily mean all that much though, we had a saying in woodworking that some guys had ten years of experience and some had one year of experience ten times. Meaning that they had done the same thing over and over, but hadn’t learned other aspects of working with wood during that time.
 
steve said:
Total years that the man has been married, or cumulative counting the number of years with each wife?

Years don’t necessarily mean all that much though, we had a saying in woodworking that some guys had ten years of experience and some had one year of experience ten times. Meaning that they had done the same thing over and over, but hadn’t learned other aspects of working with wood during that time.
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Just cumulative total.
And no wiggling out of it. I am still winning and now it will cost you a really nice Irish. Say a cadk strength Redbreast. Don't forget to wear a hat and tie, this is very exclusive service you know.
 
Good question @paterfamilias.

But as @steve points out, it is a little confusing how to count this. Let's keep it simple by not debating which measure to use, but just providing both numbers. In other words, men provide:
1: Wife-years (marriage length to wife 1 + marriage length to wife 2 etc), and
2: Marriage-years (total number of years the man has been married regardless of how many wives he was married to at that time).
Women provide total number of years married in their lifetime, may be to more than one husband if divorced/widowed and remarried.

However if we are "counting score" like this, I personally think that this could be a bit deceptive, as what matters is not just how many women you've managed to have, but whether you've managed to keep them. Those with the highest count of marriage years may also have the highest count of divorces. There is value not only in total number of years, but in success ratio. So to balance this out I'd suggest we also provide a "success ratio", which I will define as:
Success ratio = Number of wives currently living with you as a wife / total number of women married over your lifetime.
Count women who died while you were married as still currently living with you for the purpose of the ratio.

And only if you want to share this of course!

Myself:
Wife-years: 19
Marriage-years: 19
Success ratio: 1/1

I think @paterfamilias is meaning 45+ by measure 1. Interested to know number 2 for you also, and success ratio. But in all seriousness, you are certainly highly qualified to give marital advice.
 
Such nice, neat scorecards.
Mine more resembles a football play diagram.
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The thing is, I don’t claim to be able to give good advice.
But I do know bullsnot when I see it being given.
 
One here some of the old-timers would remember, sadly a demonic issue, and abandonment; but I don't count her a loss as long as there is a possibility of t'shuvah. Call it ten years.

First one coming up on 50, still a joy and blessing every day.

And the newest, one year in one more week.

So call it 61 and counting.
 
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