High Value Male

[NBTX11]

There certainly is.

This is where conditions come into play. Rather than crossing such women entirely off our lists (which turns polygyny into a structure for maximizing our own life's wonderfulness), it's entirely appropriate to present them with a list of conditions you expect them to meet. Those conditions, in a scenario such as the one you describe, could include:

• Functionally repenting for past behavior.
• Demonstrating an ability to refrain from sexual interactions for a set period of time.
• Engaging submissively in whatever discussion you need to have to establish confident trust that she's capable of pair-bonding without adultery.
• Dressing modestly.
• Refraining from posting even remotely-provocative photos on social media.
• Perhaps living with your family for a significant period of time without romantic interaction between you and her, during which she's required to assume chore responsibilities and work outside the home to bring income to your family.
• etc.

Much of this would be unacceptable to someone who is more committed to being rescued than to being a wife.

This is sound advice. Good tips for someone considering a woman in these types of situations.

 

[blessedwith2]

It's not the idea that married men shouldn't take on women with mistakes in their past, such as multiple babies by different fathers that I am getting at. There's a difference between a mistake and a lifetime pattern of behavior. I'm good with mistakes and sins that are truly repented of. We all make them.

It's the idea that there are women, for a lack of a better term, sowed their wild oats, played the field, and racked up a high body counts, much of which while claiming to be a Christian, and now expect married man to come rescue them and provide a lifetime commitment after they now realize they are out of options.

There's a difference.

You do make a very good point, but many times it's when we are out of options that God is able to get our attention. When God has our attention that is when we are most likely to truly repent of the wild oats we have sown. Thankfully God is willing to help us when we have to gather the harvest of our wild oats.