Meet a potential alone or with FW?

[WifeOfHisYouth]

If your wife is still juggling the emotions in waves, if you go alone don’t be surprised if she melts down after you leave. I don’t think it’s uncommon for a lot of first wives to feel nauseous, scared or just stress out thinking you are going to just have sex and come home with a new wife after that first meeting/date. Some of us throw logic out the window in those first new experiences. Be patient with her and get her connected with other first wives that understand the irrational emotions but that will always encourage her in her marriage and God’s word.

 

[NewBeginning]

If your wife is still juggling the emotions in waves, if you go alone don’t be surprised if she melts down after you leave. I don’t think it’s uncommon for a lot of first wives to feel nauseous, scared or just stress out thinking you are going to just have sex and come home with a new wife after that first meeting/date. Some of us throw logic out the window in those first new experiences. Be patient with her and get her connected with other first wives that understand the irrational emotions but that will always encourage her in her marriage and God’s word.

Good and wise advice. Thanks. I will check out if she is willing to come to the forum.

 

[MemeFan]

This is the worst advice I have ever read. Building a marriage off of a sexual relationship or lack thereof is an absolute dumpster fire waiting to happen. Sex can’t be the end all be all of a relationship, there are more things marriage is predicated on than sex. At most if you having sex everyday Thats maybe an hour tops what are you doing the other 23 hrs of your day?

C'mon, I never said sex is only thing which matters. It's only only thing which distinguishes marriage from rest of relationship type.

Don't imagine what I never said or implied.

 

[FollowingHim]

I obviously have to SPELL everything.

What is/are thing(s) which make marriage different from any other type of relationship?

Sex and children. Therefore, any relationship whose purpose are sex/children is marriage by essence. Therefore anyone who on purpose avoids sex/children is person avoiding marriage.

In existing marriage this is breaking existing coventant. No exceptions.

Also, person asking for advice is male which matters in specific way. Since for women biological clock runs way faster than for men, usually failure mode is man taking sweet time for children production. Since in this situation women can't get what she needs on time, she will leave relationship.

If you wonder how normal woman gets to 40s without children this is mechanism. Few serious boyfriends who avoid fertilization.

Also, man-female relationships are simple.

1. Are you for sex?
2. Under which conditions?

Unless you are looking for friend of opposite sex, sex is central topic. Impossible to avoid.

To conclude, to advance male-female relationship it must move toward sex and children. Otherwise, biological imperatives can't be satisfied dooming relationship in advance.

Just because I didn't specify it must be under conditions of marriage, doesn't mean my advice was do it outside of marriage. Hello. It was about what is neccesary for relationship to prosper and how to test is opposite side serious.

In same way, in business setting if there is no chance for money exchange, whole situation is time waster.

Also, widow interest in sex with @NewBeginning will reveal is @NewBeginning widow plan A or plan B. Yes, sometimes women keep in contact with plan B man while trying to get plan A man. Obviously, it sucks to be plan B man whose best option is to break with such woman and spend time on women for whom he is plan A.

Notice I didn't say have sex. Reaction to kissing can speak even louder than reaction to sex because some women perceive kissing as having greater intimacy than sex.

Don't say I have claimed or implied something which doesn't logically follow.

Also, just because I said unconventional and unwelcome TRUTHFULL advice doesn't mean it deserves to be punished by deleting.

Thankyou @MemeFan, that is a much clearer post. Your initial post did imply that they should just sleep together, you may not have intended that but it was very poorly worded and strongly came across that way, I'm still comfortable I made the right decision removing it. Thankyou for explaining what you actually mean.

 

[MemeFan]

Thankyou @MemeFan, that is a much clearer post. Your initial post did imply that they should just sleep together, you may not have intended that but it was very poorly worded and strongly came across that way, I'm still comfortable I made the right decision removing it. Thankyou for explaining what you actually mean.

No, thanks no.

It takes way more time to provide explanation. Sometimes you should be able to figure out something from context.

Why would person actively participanting few years here be for sex only for fun? Hello.