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Hi, Mikeda. Welcome to Biblical Families. My name is Mariechen. We are so happy you have joined us. I hope to get to know you and that you could come to one of our conferences. I am a first wife and have been married to Ron for 30 years and Jan is my sister wife who has been married to Ron for 10 years.
Biblically speaking, "one" translates in the Greek to be "one", or "first". In other words, the Bishop, or Elder, or Deacon must be married, period. The early church was not against this practice (polygny), it just wasn't a common practice. The Greeks, however, (all those not Jewish were labeled Greeks) did practice it and so the early church mostly avoided the issue. God was not against it, neither was Jesus, or He would have mentioned it. He was against divorce, forcefully so.
How did we feel? Well, you have a few minutes??? I wrote this in one of my posts:
Hi there, my name is Mariechen Higgins and I am the first wife of Ron Higgins. My sisterwife is Jan Louie and we have been in this lifestyle for 8 years.
The first 4 years were very rocky, as Jan had been my best friend for 28 years and Ron was my best friend and husband of 20 years. Her beloved husband of 37 years had died, and so we took her everywhere with us on our many trips around the country, to Alaska, Lousiana, Carribean, etc, as I did not want her to be alone. Living in AZ, we brought her down to stay with us for a year before this subject came up. I believed that we were to take in widows and care for them, but I did not think that we were seriosly considering poligamy.
Once the subject was brought up, I freaked. I did not know anyone who practiced this and if it was even scriptual. Over the years Ron and I had talked about it and intellectually I could see benefits, esp. for young mothers, senior citizens, widows, women who had never been married and wanted to be, and for many other situations, but not for me. So, I went on a journey through the bible to find out if it was ok scripturally. It was. Then what about the church history of it, if there was any? Again, it was a common practice until the 16th century when the Catholic church denounced the lifestyle for all people.
So, if it was ok with God, now how was I to cope with it? I felt betrayed, alone, angry, lost, that I was not 'good enough' for Ron, blaming both of them for hurting me, and it was terrible. However, I found out that Ron still loved me and he became a better, more loving husband towards me, not the other way around. I would try it for about 6 months and then I would kick Jan out of my home, and after 4 months I would invite her back in, then I would kick her out again. This happened twice, before finally I accepted the reality of this lifestyle. It was so hard on everyone and lots of fighting occurred. But I never stopped loving Jan and wanted only good for her.
So, over time, we all started finding our different roles and places within our family. As Ron often told us, this commitment before God was binding and could never be broken. As they had a covenant marriage, as or more binding that our own legal marriage, divorce was never an option. And, despite the advice from family, friends, and churches, I would never leave Ron! We lost friends, family members (although most of these came around), and church membership. (Ron decided to ask all kinds of pastors if they could prove, in the Bible, that this was against God's laws. Each time, the pastor would admit that he could not find anywhere that it was a sin. But all admitted that they would lose their congregation if they preached it from the pulpit.)
As I came around, the marriages flourished. Jan and I worked out our differences, as we both loved the Lord beyond our very lives, loved Ron absolutely, and each other as sisters. And we have found a better way to live, encouraging and supporting each other (treating each one with kindness and love).
Having been through the fire, I can truly say it is so much better than if it had been just Ron and me to face the future alone. Over time we realized, and God showed us, why He had brought us together in this lifestyle. It was to, together, face the future of Ron and his ALS. We have seen the need to support each other through it all. And it will get worse for us, this disease. But with God and each other, we will make it.
And then I wrote this:
I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often
, we try to handle them with time out ) or by understanding how and why the other thinks that way. We each can come into a room and while one does some cleaning (usually Jan), the other sees something else to do to help!! (Long time coming, as those who know us are aware!) And we all have a wonderful sense of humor!
So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
I hope this answers your question.
Biblically speaking, "one" translates in the Greek to be "one", or "first". In other words, the Bishop, or Elder, or Deacon must be married, period. The early church was not against this practice (polygny), it just wasn't a common practice. The Greeks, however, (all those not Jewish were labeled Greeks) did practice it and so the early church mostly avoided the issue. God was not against it, neither was Jesus, or He would have mentioned it. He was against divorce, forcefully so.
How did we feel? Well, you have a few minutes??? I wrote this in one of my posts:
Hi there, my name is Mariechen Higgins and I am the first wife of Ron Higgins. My sisterwife is Jan Louie and we have been in this lifestyle for 8 years.
The first 4 years were very rocky, as Jan had been my best friend for 28 years and Ron was my best friend and husband of 20 years. Her beloved husband of 37 years had died, and so we took her everywhere with us on our many trips around the country, to Alaska, Lousiana, Carribean, etc, as I did not want her to be alone. Living in AZ, we brought her down to stay with us for a year before this subject came up. I believed that we were to take in widows and care for them, but I did not think that we were seriosly considering poligamy.
Once the subject was brought up, I freaked. I did not know anyone who practiced this and if it was even scriptual. Over the years Ron and I had talked about it and intellectually I could see benefits, esp. for young mothers, senior citizens, widows, women who had never been married and wanted to be, and for many other situations, but not for me. So, I went on a journey through the bible to find out if it was ok scripturally. It was. Then what about the church history of it, if there was any? Again, it was a common practice until the 16th century when the Catholic church denounced the lifestyle for all people.
So, if it was ok with God, now how was I to cope with it? I felt betrayed, alone, angry, lost, that I was not 'good enough' for Ron, blaming both of them for hurting me, and it was terrible. However, I found out that Ron still loved me and he became a better, more loving husband towards me, not the other way around. I would try it for about 6 months and then I would kick Jan out of my home, and after 4 months I would invite her back in, then I would kick her out again. This happened twice, before finally I accepted the reality of this lifestyle. It was so hard on everyone and lots of fighting occurred. But I never stopped loving Jan and wanted only good for her.
So, over time, we all started finding our different roles and places within our family. As Ron often told us, this commitment before God was binding and could never be broken. As they had a covenant marriage, as or more binding that our own legal marriage, divorce was never an option. And, despite the advice from family, friends, and churches, I would never leave Ron! We lost friends, family members (although most of these came around), and church membership. (Ron decided to ask all kinds of pastors if they could prove, in the Bible, that this was against God's laws. Each time, the pastor would admit that he could not find anywhere that it was a sin. But all admitted that they would lose their congregation if they preached it from the pulpit.)
As I came around, the marriages flourished. Jan and I worked out our differences, as we both loved the Lord beyond our very lives, loved Ron absolutely, and each other as sisters. And we have found a better way to live, encouraging and supporting each other (treating each one with kindness and love).
Having been through the fire, I can truly say it is so much better than if it had been just Ron and me to face the future alone. Over time we realized, and God showed us, why He had brought us together in this lifestyle. It was to, together, face the future of Ron and his ALS. We have seen the need to support each other through it all. And it will get worse for us, this disease. But with God and each other, we will make it.
And then I wrote this:
I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often
, we try to handle them with time out ) or by understanding how and why the other thinks that way. We each can come into a room and while one does some cleaning (usually Jan), the other sees something else to do to help!! (Long time coming, as those who know us are aware!) And we all have a wonderful sense of humor!So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
I hope this answers your question.
Oh I love this. Thank u so much for posting this. I feel that this lifestyle could benefit me and my family in many ways. My smhusband isnt ready for it now but I know that he sees nothing wrong with this lifestyle. Right now God has us right where he wants us. Where we are now is the place that God can work on our hearts and in our daily lives. I do look forward to expanding our family somedayHi, Mikeda. Welcome to Biblical Families. My name is Mariechen. We are so happy you have joined us. I hope to get to know you and that you could come to one of our conferences. I am a first wife and have been married to Ron for 30 years and Jan is my sister wife who has been married to Ron for 10 years.
Biblically speaking, "one" translates in the Greek to be "one", or "first". In other words, the Bishop, or Elder, or Deacon must be married, period. The early church was not against this practice (polygny), it just wasn't a common practice. The Greeks, however, (all those not Jewish were labeled Greeks) did practice it and so the early church mostly avoided the issue. God was not against it, neither was Jesus, or He would have mentioned it. He was against divorce, forcefully so.
How did we feel? Well, you have a few minutes??? I wrote this in one of my posts:
Hi there, my name is Mariechen Higgins and I am the first wife of Ron Higgins. My sisterwife is Jan Louie and we have been in this lifestyle for 8 years.
The first 4 years were very rocky, as Jan had been my best friend for 28 years and Ron was my best friend and husband of 20 years. Her beloved husband of 37 years had died, and so we took her everywhere with us on our many trips around the country, to Alaska, Lousiana, Carribean, etc, as I did not want her to be alone. Living in AZ, we brought her down to stay with us for a year before this subject came up. I believed that we were to take in widows and care for them, but I did not think that we were seriosly considering poligamy.
Once the subject was brought up, I freaked. I did not know anyone who practiced this and if it was even scriptual. Over the years Ron and I had talked about it and intellectually I could see benefits, esp. for young mothers, senior citizens, widows, women who had never been married and wanted to be, and for many other situations, but not for me. So, I went on a journey through the bible to find out if it was ok scripturally. It was. Then what about the church history of it, if there was any? Again, it was a common practice until the 16th century when the Catholic church denounced the lifestyle for all people.
So, if it was ok with God, now how was I to cope with it? I felt betrayed, alone, angry, lost, that I was not 'good enough' for Ron, blaming both of them for hurting me, and it was terrible. However, I found out that Ron still loved me and he became a better, more loving husband towards me, not the other way around. I would try it for about 6 months and then I would kick Jan out of my home, and after 4 months I would invite her back in, then I would kick her out again. This happened twice, before finally I accepted the reality of this lifestyle. It was so hard on everyone and lots of fighting occurred. But I never stopped loving Jan and wanted only good for her.
So, over time, we all started finding our different roles and places within our family. As Ron often told us, this commitment before God was binding and could never be broken. As they had a covenant marriage, as or more binding that our own legal marriage, divorce was never an option. And, despite the advice from family, friends, and churches, I would never leave Ron! We lost friends, family members (although most of these came around), and church membership. (Ron decided to ask all kinds of pastors if they could prove, in the Bible, that this was against God's laws. Each time, the pastor would admit that he could not find anywhere that it was a sin. But all admitted that they would lose their congregation if they preached it from the pulpit.)
As I came around, the marriages flourished. Jan and I worked out our differences, as we both loved the Lord beyond our very lives, loved Ron absolutely, and each other as sisters. And we have found a better way to live, encouraging and supporting each other (treating each one with kindness and love).
Having been through the fire, I can truly say it is so much better than if it had been just Ron and me to face the future alone. Over time we realized, and God showed us, why He had brought us together in this lifestyle. It was to, together, face the future of Ron and his ALS. We have seen the need to support each other through it all. And it will get worse for us, this disease. But with God and each other, we will make it.
And then I wrote this:
I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often
So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
I hope this answers your question.
Hi, Mikeda. Welcome to Biblical Families. My name is Mariechen. We are so happy you have joined us. I hope to get to know you and that you could come to one of our conferences. I am a first wife and have been married to Ron for 30 years and Jan is my sister wife who has been married to Ron for 10 years.
Biblically speaking, "one" translates in the Greek to be "one", or "first". In other words, the Bishop, or Elder, or Deacon must be married, period. The early church was not against this practice (polygny), it just wasn't a common practice. The Greeks, however, (all those not Jewish were labeled Greeks) did practice it and so the early church mostly avoided the issue. God was not against it, neither was Jesus, or He would have mentioned it. He was against divorce, forcefully so.
How did we feel? Well, you have a few minutes??? I wrote this in one of my posts:
Hi there, my name is Mariechen Higgins and I am the first wife of Ron Higgins. My sisterwife is Jan Louie and we have been in this lifestyle for 8 years.
The first 4 years were very rocky, as Jan had been my best friend for 28 years and Ron was my best friend and husband of 20 years. Her beloved husband of 37 years had died, and so we took her everywhere with us on our many trips around the country, to Alaska, Lousiana, Carribean, etc, as I did not want her to be alone. Living in AZ, we brought her down to stay with us for a year before this subject came up. I believed that we were to take in widows and care for them, but I did not think that we were seriosly considering poligamy.
Once the subject was brought up, I freaked. I did not know anyone who practiced this and if it was even scriptual. Over the years Ron and I had talked about it and intellectually I could see benefits, esp. for young mothers, senior citizens, widows, women who had never been married and wanted to be, and for many other situations, but not for me. So, I went on a journey through the bible to find out if it was ok scripturally. It was. Then what about the church history of it, if there was any? Again, it was a common practice until the 16th century when the Catholic church denounced the lifestyle for all people.
So, if it was ok with God, now how was I to cope with it? I felt betrayed, alone, angry, lost, that I was not 'good enough' for Ron, blaming both of them for hurting me, and it was terrible. However, I found out that Ron still loved me and he became a better, more loving husband towards me, not the other way around. I would try it for about 6 months and then I would kick Jan out of my home, and after 4 months I would invite her back in, then I would kick her out again. This happened twice, before finally I accepted the reality of this lifestyle. It was so hard on everyone and lots of fighting occurred. But I never stopped loving Jan and wanted only good for her.
So, over time, we all started finding our different roles and places within our family. As Ron often told us, this commitment before God was binding and could never be broken. As they had a covenant marriage, as or more binding that our own legal marriage, divorce was never an option. And, despite the advice from family, friends, and churches, I would never leave Ron! We lost friends, family members (although most of these came around), and church membership. (Ron decided to ask all kinds of pastors if they could prove, in the Bible, that this was against God's laws. Each time, the pastor would admit that he could not find anywhere that it was a sin. But all admitted that they would lose their congregation if they preached it from the pulpit.)
As I came around, the marriages flourished. Jan and I worked out our differences, as we both loved the Lord beyond our very lives, loved Ron absolutely, and each other as sisters. And we have found a better way to live, encouraging and supporting each other (treating each one with kindness and love).
Having been through the fire, I can truly say it is so much better than if it had been just Ron and me to face the future alone. Over time we realized, and God showed us, why He had brought us together in this lifestyle. It was to, together, face the future of Ron and his ALS. We have seen the need to support each other through it all. And it will get worse for us, this disease. But with God and each other, we will make it.
And then I wrote this:
I love this life-style!! It is so wonderful having a sister wife who loves you and enjoys helping with our beloved husband! As we grow closer in the Lord, in our family, and love with Ron, we see so many daily miracles occurring. We have freedom to be alone, to be together, to do things with or without each other. We have an ability to help without asking, almost as if we can read each others minds. Even when we have disagreements, which we can often
So sister wives, don't give up! Keep your sense of humor and love of the Lord! These will carry you through life. When things seem darkest, then the light of the Lord shines more brightly. We are in this lifestyle because we each love the same man. So, because of that, we are then called to become part of his family, loving, fighting, laughing, spending time with each other and together with him. We look forward to those night with him, and then enjoy those nights alone (you can do what you want, be up as late as you wish, catch up on tv, movies,correspondence, sewing, whatever you want to do)! This seems a strange concept of sharing one's husband and one's life, but it a blessing for all involved. And your man will blossom in this life, when you and the other wife work together to make him happy! He then responds in loving ways and does his best to make you happy.
Although there will be many, many challenges and stretching for you, (life itself is not so easy for the monogamous marriage!), the rewards are a satisfied life, filled with miracles and laughter surrounded by people who love the Lord first, and then each other.
I hope this answers your question.
Poodles, what a beautiful life and family. This is exactly what I feel I am being called to. Thank you for being so open and willing to share with us.
I am so glad I stayed up till 4am reading posts. LOL this is the one I was looking for, needing to read. You are so real you shared the hard facts of what it is like being a sister wife even though you all had known each other, loved and cared for one another there were still very hard times to overcome. It is good to read that you all have a wonderful relationship with the Lord. And your deep desire to serve Him!
Thank you and many blessings