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Wife is demanding a 3rd Party

davidthebuilder said:
My question is, from her perspective, is she even wrong? If so, how?
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Yeah she is wrong, but it is true that new terms have been proposed. However you did the right thing in telling her you will not pursue it further, but the desire is still there. Ask her if she has prayed that this desire will go away. If this desire comes from God, that prayer will be answered with a "No". God is powerful enough to take that desire away from you, so help her to understand that God is able, if He chooses to do so, but if this is what He wants for you, He won't. So many followers of Christ claim that they believe in a big God, but sometimes they get it stuck in their minds that this God is incapable of working on your heart. I can't tell you how many people I have had that have said that they would pray that God would change my mind. Then of course when God doesn't answer their prayer, they just want to blame it on me, that I refuse to let Him do so. In reality their god is not as big as they claim that He is.
 
Heavens Declare said:
Yeah she is wrong, but it is true that new terms have been proposed. However you did the right thing in telling her you will not pursue it further, but the desire is still there. Ask her if she has prayed that this desire will go away. If this desire comes from God, that prayer will be answered with a "No". God is powerful enough to take that desire away from you, so help her to understand that God is able, if He chooses to do so, but if this is what He wants for you, He won't. So many followers of Christ claim that they believe in a big God, but sometimes they get it stuck in their minds that this God is incapable of working on your heart. I can't tell you how many people I have had that have said that they would pray that God would change my mind. Then of course when God doesn't answer their prayer, they just want to blame it on me, that I refuse to let Him do so. In reality their god is not as big as they claim that He is.
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This is insightful, and something I’ll probably mention to her. I myself have prayed for God to remove the desire if it’s not of Him, and yet it remains.
 
Heavens Declare said:
Yeah she is wrong, but it is true that new terms have been proposed. However you did the right thing in telling her you will not pursue it further, but the desire is still there. Ask her if she has prayed that this desire will go away. If this desire comes from God, that prayer will be answered with a "No". God is powerful enough to take that desire away from you, so help her to understand that God is able, if He chooses to do so, but if this is what He wants for you, He won't. So many followers of Christ claim that they believe in a big God, but sometimes they get it stuck in their minds that this God is incapable of working on your heart. I can't tell you how many people I have had that have said that they would pray that God would change my mind. Then of course when God doesn't answer their prayer, they just want to blame it on me, that I refuse to let Him do so. In reality their god is not as big as they claim that He is.
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^^^ So true.
According to Romans 8:29, we are predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son. We should all be growing to be more and more like Him. The Son presents Himself as taking multiple virgins into the weddings' celebrations, so men of God having the same desire isn't contradicting His plan for their lives, if indeed that's His plan.
 
frederick said:
^^^ So true.
According to Romans 8:29, we are predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son. We should all be growing to be more and more like Him. The Son presents Himself as taking multiple virgins into the weddings' celebrations, so men of God having the same desire isn't contradicting His plan for their lives, if indeed that's His plan.
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We prayed together this evening about this, to take away the desire. Funnily enough, she mentioned the Parable of the 10 Virgins to me (bridesmaids she says, of course,) earlier in the evening about eschatology, which is another Providential synchronicity.
 
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