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So if there are no good matchmaking sites, we can always look at what has worked for others. I met my wife on a mission trip, but good look being allowed to go on a trip without agreeing to "one man one woman"!
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
So if there are no good matchmaking sites, we can always look at what has worked for others. I met my wife on a mission trip, but good look being allowed to go on a trip without agreeing to "one man one woman"!
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Ask your question differently: 'what has worked for other men who have multiple wives?'
 
rockfox said:
You ever known a thread around here to stay on track? *checks page count*

Seriously though, my point was that the problem we face is ultimately the same which faces finding a first wife. Fix one you fix the other. And if your church isn't helping you bear your burdens then they're not really acting like a church now are they?

Besides, I already have children; them finding mates is more important to me than me finding a second wife.
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A thought occurred to me while I was at the retreat a couple of weeks ago. We need a Biblical University for our young people to attend. While the thread is derailed, I think I'll propose the name Higgins Bender Amelang University. Dr. Luck could be the Dean of Biblical Studies, and maybe we could get Pastor Dowell to serve as the head of Pastoral Care.
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
A thought occurred to me while I was at the retreat a couple of weeks ago. We need a Biblical University for our young people to attend. While the thread is derailed, I think I'll propose the name Higgins Bender Amelang University. Dr. Luck could be the Dean of Biblical Studies, and maybe we could get Pastor Dowell to serve as the head of Pastoral Care.
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@PeteR as the dean of Torah Studies
 
bro. Dexter said:
Yes, what has worked for other men who have multiple wives? I would like to know.

Shalom!
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The vast majority of them say they met their first and subsequent wives in the natural course of their normal daily pursuits. Polygyny isn't magically different, you're still marrying a woman, whether she be the first one or adding her to your family. Same standards, same relationship, just a different flavor and added obstacles.

Make sure your first marriage is rock solid. Then, and only then, should you even consider adding another.
 
rockfox said:
Ask your question differently: 'what has worked for other men who have multiple wives?'
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Meeting them on similar but now defunct plig site, posting opinions, snark and debating ideas with other people interested in the topic.
 
bro. Dexter said:
Yes, what has worked for other men who have multiple wives? I would like to know.

Shalom!
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What has worked for me is engaging in Bible studies and explaining passages of Scripture. Meeting a woman in some normal situation of life and then together building a foundation for a relationship on the truth of Scripture. But I only have two wives so not as successful as @steve or @andrew etc. have been. :)
 
FollowingHim said:
You know you can remove that, it should just appear once and then be forgotten about once you've clicked to hide it?
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Would that mean that dating here is no longer verbotten?
 
frederick said:
What has worked for me is engaging in Bible studies and explaining passages of Scripture. Meeting a woman in some normal situation of life and then together building a foundation for a relationship on the truth of Scripture. But I only have two wives so not as successful as @steve or @andrew etc. have been. :)
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...but it still worked!!!! Obviously the Bible studies that you attended, allow singles to mingle with the married folk...or perhaps they used to before you came along! Angela thinks that I am already too involved in the local church with choir, orchestra and our church's Outreach ministry. She's probably right, but I am thinking I want to attend the "Experiencing God" class that they have started. I think that they are separating men and women in this class though.
 
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Daniel DeLuca said:
Would that mean that dating here is no longer verbotten?
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It's not forbidden. This just isn't set up as a dating website, and that is not its purpose. It is as little of a dating facility as a church is. The vast majority of activity at any church has nothing to do with dating. Nevertheless, someone might meet their spouse there. Same goes for any public place where people talk. This is just a public place where people talk.
 
Daniel DeLuca said:
I was thinking professor of Greek and Hebrew. Then we would have our own "expert" who can refute the whole Lev 18:18 nonsense.
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There are others among us far more studied in the languages who could fill that slot... Paging @ABlessedMan and @IshChayil ...
 
rockfox said:
There have been multiple reports of people suspecting sisterwives of using fake bot accounts to get people to sign up for the paid plan. Not a lot of testimonies of success either. But they do seem to at least be making an effort to clamp down on spammers and bots. It's no where near as bad as some of the general popular dating sights; some of which are simply overrun with spammers and prostitutes.

On a whim last week I looked at sisterwives active accounts listing. It was running 10:1 men/couples to women and fully half the women were single mothers. And that's assuming the women are all single, as another thread mentioned some couples are posing as women. Unfortunately at that ratio the women on the site will be overrun with messages; making it hard to get their attention.
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I have encountered this, there are a number of fake accounts with AI generated images it seems. They will message you every couple of weeks and rematch you, like clockwork. 95% of the interactions and conversations we had with women on that website were those interested in Polyamory and or open relationships. Single women and couples from the polyamorous community have flooded the website and are corrupting it. I enjoyed the website and its framework, have meet a few nice people on there (which led me to BF!). But I will not pay money to a dating site advertising for a certain lifestyle yet is flooded with the opposite lifestyles. I have recently deleted my SW account and will conduct our search the old fashion way.
 
cnystrom said:
I am not a supporter, but I think you might be a little hard on the sisterwives.com site. I have not seen any indication that they were supporting polyamory. You might find people there into that, as you might find some here, but there is no indication from the website owners that they support that. There are no polyamory forums on the site for example.
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Almost every person we have encountered in the last couple of months wanted a polyamory or open relationship. There was an experiment where a female profile was created by a friend of mine, it was flooded within the first hour with over 100 messages from couples seeking a sexual based polyamory relationship rather than polygamy. The ratio of true Polygamy/polygyny seekers is drowned out by the Chaotic polyamory crowd and scares off true honest women interested in a biblical family.
 
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