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Yes. 99 percent of the profiles are BS from the word go.
If I may ask you a question, what is the best way for a couple or even a single man to find someone like you? I think a lot of men/couples want to do it right, but there are no real rules set up. We are not used to a dating scene and are usually fed up with fake people and accounts. Any advice would help. I have found that my luck is better with women that I have developed a relationship before polygamy is mentioned, and then when it is given as an option, those who do want to know more are more accepting coming from someone they know. I am sure it is hard for single woman to find someone safe.
It is difficult and I don’t know that there is any right way of doing it. I am at work right now but I will get back to you soon.
I'm not Patricia, but will throw in a few thoughts. I think real life (as opposed to online) is generally the best place for men seeking to expand their families, and women seeking to join a family.
Sadly, things are complicated. Extremely few people understand that God's Law permits polygyny. A woman might understand it, but all the men she knows probably don't. Likewise, a man might understand it, but all the single women he knows probably don't.
Some people would be open to it if they understood that God permits plural marriage.
If someone (especially a man) goes around trying to persuade people that the Bible permits polygamy, he will quickly find himself attacked from all sides. If a church member, he will probably get excommunicated. He will likely become a social pariah, and perhaps lose his friends and family.
Still, truth should nonetheless be told.
The lie of "monogamy only" has been accepted for far too long.
And likewise women will be attacked viciously if she shows even the slightest inclination towards polygyny. Particularly, from her own family.
Ask me how I know.
"Monogamy only" really seems to be an idol. Exposing this falsehood brings out the worst in people.
I've seen people go into an absolute rage at the mere mention of biblical polygyny. A full fledged seething rage. And nothing that could be said would ever change their minds. There could be a million Bible verses for it and they wouldn't hear it.
In spite of the evidence for a particular subject matter in the Bible, people will believe what they want and find ways to explain away the evidence. Polygyny is not unique in that regard, look at what happens with some when you show them the evidence for Six Day creation!
Whatever the truth is, there is a satanic battle against it and we have to be fully armoured up to stand against those schemes. Shalom
@MeganC has been pretty cordial about it.
Me willing to fight on the topic of plyg-life
Me encountering a new wife's familial pushback (or a super solid potential future wife after telling her parents)
Jokes aside...briefly...it is super important for people to know going in how much potential pushback one may receive
My favorites have been the claim that they can name multiple passages proving that it is sinful and disallowed.
Only one ever answered and even my gimpy ass was able to refute her claim.
This is why I don't monkey about on non plyg sites. When I did, I always states it at the outset what I was and was seeking...proving that apparently some woman don't read much after being stunned by my pics...insert smirk here.
If some woman decides she has some potential interest in this big silly ape, then it should be clear in her mind what sort of dynamic I have available.
Less rage at minimum
JPR and I had a good conversation on YEC. It's a shame you could not join us!
Tried the free sisterwives option and got a lot of women who didn't seem like sincere Christians if you know what I mean lol
Tried paid Polygamy.com for a month and got a couple bots and a few that seemed real but only Mormons, which we are not interested in. So after our subscription ran out we didn't re-up.
That was all several years ago, haven't tried anything since then. My husband is a web developer and tried to start a Christian dating site that encouraged young marriages, arranged marriages and plural marriages but never published it for fear of being thrown in prison for child trafficking etc. So sad how backward our society has become.
Y'all must have been doing something I am not to get many responses.
I get very little response beyond the scammers.
Sisterwives is transparent bots and bullshit going for all that sweet sweet degenerate swinger money in the form of polyamorus blah blah. I have met a few woman there who were not a match for our family so I referred them here for more conversation and a peer group. One I am fairly certain joined a family.
Polygamy I met someone that might have had potential but I was not willing to jump fast enough so she disappeared and apparently the overtures of friendship were not authentic. Just the way it goes. The site though is seemingly 90% bots and BS. Would not recommend at all.
I prefer modernpolygamy. Seems like a nice guy and is running it for free which is quite altruistic obviously. Only a few weirdos seem to slip through the net and not for that long.
No luck there so far but at least it doesn't feel like a screw job.
Not about his site but some of the woman are amusing in their expectations and criteria. I like when the 45 year old women have a stated age range of 30 to 50. Lol...OK, good luck with that.
I get very little response beyond the scammers.
Sisterwives is transparent bots and bullshit going for all that sweet sweet degenerate swinger money in the form of polyamorus blah blah. I have met a few woman there who were not a match for our family so I referred them here for more conversation and a peer group. One I am fairly certain joined a family.
Polygamy I met someone that might have had potential but I was not willing to jump fast enough so she disappeared and apparently the overtures of friendship were not authentic. Just the way it goes. The site though is seemingly 90% bots and BS. Would not recommend at all.
I prefer modernpolygamy. Seems like a nice guy and is running it for free which is quite altruistic obviously. Only a few weirdos seem to slip through the net and not for that long.
No luck there so far but at least it doesn't feel like a screw job.
Not about his site but some of the woman are amusing in their expectations and criteria. I like when the 45 year old women have a stated age range of 30 to 50. Lol...OK, good luck with that.
I don't see it as backward as much as anti-biblical. Whatever it is that God presents as His standard or way of life, Satan opposes and contradicts it. The root of the polygyny battle, like every other battle, is first spiritual. Shalom
This is a trap a lot of Christians fall into when trying to justify Scripture to people who reject Scripture.
Just because there's a Chapter and Verse that says a thing doesn't hold any authority with people who reject the authority of Scripture and who often deny the existence of God.
I will plead guilty to being one of them. My parents were not religious and were in fact very secular. So was I.
When I decided on poly and joined my family I still wasn't interested in faith but I did have to live according to some Scriptural expectations. It wasn't an easy adjustment.
But one day I realized that having a bunch of babies, living in a big family, not being around drugs or physical abuse...all of this was the outcome of leading a Godly life. And I was pretty dang happy and blessed!
Over the years I've seen other secular women come to the life because it's a better life.
What I am saying is that when you deal with secular people you can't use Scripture to justify your lifestyle however you absolutely can use your lifestyle to justify Scripture!
"See, we live according to Scriptural wisdom and we're really happy about it."
That's a difficult argument to counter for secular people who are mired in debt, whose relationships are a string of disasters, and whose lifestyle choices are often visible in their piercings, tattoos, and Kool-Aid hair.
They might not choose to join you but I can tell you from personal experience that they won't argue with you.
The outcome of living a Godly life is validation of the truth of Scriptural wisdom.
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I’ve had more problems with people who claim to be Christians and claim to believe the Bible rejecting clear scripture on the topic. It can be right in front of their nose and they won’t listen.