Dating / matchmaking websites

[AbrahamSolomon]

It sounds like what you posted came across as a long theological sermon, rather than a clear expression of who you are and what your basic beliefs are. The message you posted states that they didn't delete your account, they just asked you to revise this text so it said more about you and lectured less, and add more photos, before they'd let it go live. Now, we could debate whether or not it's right for them to check and approve profile texts, but it's their website and their rules - and their good advice.

I get the feeling they're actually being nice to you by saving you some money. They knew that the profile you posted would get zero responses, so they're advising you to revise it, and they're not taking your money if you don't. If they were all about profit they'd have let you put it up and be disappointed.

Instead of requesting me to change it they closed or did not fully activate it. Either way you are right it's theirs and if they forbid me to post that then they would most likely do that even it was shorter too.

So I will just not sign up there and that's okay. Just letting everyone know.

Anything I put needs to upfront and Biblically based as it cuts thought the legions of non opinions

 

[MemeFan]

Obviously we need to up our game.

Let's start with basics. Did any marriage was made with help of this forum last year? If not, we need to that number to 1.

I believe this will be exceptional performance.

 

[LDremoved]

Let's start with basics. Did any marriage was made with help of this forum last year? If not, we need to that number to 1.

I believe this will be exceptional performance.

Yes @steve takes all of the women lol

 

[MemeFan]

Instead of requesting me to change it they closed or did not fully activate it. Either way you are right it's theirs and if they forbid me to post that then they would most likely do that even it was shorter too.

So I will just not sign up there and that's okay. Just letting everyone know.

Anything I put needs to upfront and Biblically based as it cuts thought the legions of non opinions

Unbeliveable.

Man with 6 wives doesn't know not to put sermon on dating site. How did you meet all your wives?

 

[FollowingHim]

Instead of requesting me to change it they closed or did not fully activate it.

They requested you to change it (the first message you posted), and until it is changed it won't be fully activated (hence the error you see).

I do think you are taking this as a personal insult, when it's really just a generic policy they'd apply to anyone.

I think you are not really aware of how your writing looks to other people @AbrahamSolomon. You think your writing is good and clear (in this case, clearly explaining what you are looking for in a wife), but to readers your writing is often extremely disjointed and difficult to follow. If you copy/paste the actual text you were intending to use as your profile we can point this out more clearly, help you understand how it would be perceived by others and possibly help you communicate better.

 

[LDremoved]

We are Messianic Jews who keep The 613 Laws.

(THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH)
It was long, but it is far better they understand my requirements.

I do that so they have a clear understanding of the basic requirements. If I don't I will attract unGodly women and that would be a waste of time.

Im my opinion it also lacks filters to just find believers so i'll not sign up again till they upgrade it.

I could have used links to everything so it would have less text if that was the issue, but I'm sure they would flip if I did.

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I'm sort of with you on this one. Personally I prefer seeing someone put it all out there and I like putting it all out there myself on those sites. It may be too much but why waste time dancing around the subject. I want to know what's expected of me and I'd like others to know what they're getting themselves into with me. I may be in the minority though.

I'd take @FollowingHim up on his offer of helping you tweak some things, he's super sensible.

 

[MemeFan]

I'm sort of with you on this one, my personal preference is seeing someone put it all out there and putting it all out there myself on those sites. It may be too much but why waste time dancing around the subject. I want to know what's expected of me and I'd like others to know what they're getting themselves into with me. I may be in the minority though.

Long message are error.

How do you meet people in real world? It always starts with smaller talk hopefully leading to even more talk and time alone.

Why do you expect that somebody will spend 15 minutes reading all your requirements or your life story? Won't happen. Message should be interesting and intriguing, just like you should be when starting romantic relationship in real life.

By the way, I'm willing to bet that 70% (man) - 90% (woman) requirements are negotiable. If you find good catch you will stop caring, for example, height.

You are searching for romantic partner, not product developer or therapist.

 

[FollowingHim]

I'm sort of with you on this one. Personally I prefer seeing someone put it all out there and putting it all out there myself on those sites. It may be too much but why waste time dancing around the subject.

I actually agree, that's my attitude with job applications. On the rare occasion I have applied for a job I have usually been blunt and clear about myself in my cover letter, with the intention of being rejected prior to the interview if I was likely to not be selected anyway, to save wasting time and money being interviewed pointlessly. Each time I have used this strategy I have successfully avoided the job interview. I have no idea whether this strategy can actually result in employment.

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

They requested you to change it (the first message you posted), and until it is changed it won't be fully activated (hence the error you see).

I do think you are taking this as a personal insult, when it's really just a generic policy they'd apply to anyone.

I think you are not really aware of how your writing looks to other people @AbrahamSolomon. You think your writing is good and clear (in this case, clearly explaining what you are looking for in a wife), but to readers your writing is often extremely disjointed and difficult to follow. If you copy/paste the actual text you were intending to use as your profile we can point this out more clearly, help you understand how it would be perceived by others and possibly help you communicate better.

I know I do overkill but it took me awhile to sum it up as clear as this, I crafted this by showing verses on how a Biblical Families should be like.
I did this about 2010 and I have no clue how to reduce it anymore and I was going to work on adding The Laws as well.

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH - UOJMJ Mans First Job: Genesis 2:15 King James Version (KJV) 15 And the L-rd G-d took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. Womens Role: Genesis 2:18 King James Version (KJV) 18 And the L-rd...

www.biblicalfamilies.org

I will try later, but I am sure it won't pass and that is fine.

Thanks.

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

Here is what I did much shorter.

I have 7 Wives and 1 son and 2 adopted Daughters
Kim, Karen, Dorty, Valeria, Bianca, Maggie, Alexandra

Wives: Never married/claimed marriage nor have had any kids.
Expectations: If your husband died and was a Teacher of G-d.
Concubines: If you had any kids and your husband is died and not a Teacher of G-d or
He is a non-believer and left you and not you leaving him.

We are looking for G-dly Women who don’t:

Drink
Smoke
Drugs
Celebrate any Pagan Holidays

We want Women who will:

Submit everything to their Husband.
Obeying me is Love and I will also Love you.
We have no Free Rides. Everyone works.

1. To know that G-d exists (Ex. 20:2; Deut. 5:6) (CCA1). See What Do Jews Believe?.
2. Not to add to the commandments of the Torah, whether in the Written Law or in its interpretation received by tradition (Deut. 13:1) (CCN159). See Torah.
3. Not to take away from the commandments of the Torah (Deut. 13:1) (CCN160). See Torah.
4. To be fruitful and multiply (Gen. 1:28) (CCA43).

Ephesians 5:22-33
King James Version (KJV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

 

[FollowingHim]

I know I do overkill but it took me awhile to sum it up as clear as this, I crafted this by showing verses on how a Biblical Families should be like.
I did this about 2010 and I have no clue how to reduce it anymore and I was going to work on adding The Laws as well.

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH - UOJMJ Mans First Job: Genesis 2:15 King James Version (KJV) 15 And the L-rd G-d took the man, and put him into the garden of Eden to dress it and to keep it. Womens Role: Genesis 2:18 King James Version (KJV) 18 And the L-rd...

www.biblicalfamilies.org

I will try later, but I am sure it won't pass and that is fine.

Thanks.

You don't need to edit that. It's fine.

It's just not the right thing to post as your profile on a dating site. It's a document for your own reference, and for detailed discussion with a prospective wife at some later date. It's not a bad document - it's the wrong document.

It says nothing about who you are. A profile is to say who you are.

Here is what I did much shorter.

I have 7 Wives and 1 son and 2 adopted Daughters
Kim, Karen, Dorty, Valeria, Bianca, Maggie, Alexandra

Wives: Never married/claimed marriage nor have had any kids.
Expectations: If your husband died and was a Teacher of G-d.
Concubines: If you had any kids and your husband is died and not a Teacher of G-d or
He is a non-believer and left you and not you leaving him.

We are looking for G-dly Women who don’t:

Drink
Smoke
Drugs
Celebrate any Pagan Holidays

We want Women who will:

Submit everything to their Husband.
Obeying me is Love and I will also Love you.
We have no Free Rides. Everyone works.

1. To know that G-d exists (Ex. 20:2; Deut. 5:6) (CCA1). See What Do Jews Believe?.
2. Not to add to the commandments of the Torah, whether in the Written Law or in its interpretation received by tradition (Deut. 13:1) (CCN159). See Torah.
3. Not to take away from the commandments of the Torah (Deut. 13:1) (CCN160). See Torah.
4. To be fruitful and multiply (Gen. 1:28) (CCA43).

Ephesians 5:22-33
King James Version (KJV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

That on the other hand is getting closer to the right thing to post - because it actually talks about your family - but it's still way off the mark.

It is poorly written and difficult to read. For instance, what does this paragraph even mean? Is it describing your current wives - or is it a statement of theology? Just delete this, it's confusing.

Wives: Never married/claimed marriage nor have had any kids.
Expectations: If your husband died and was a Teacher of G-d.
Concubines: If you had any kids and your husband is died and not a Teacher of G-d or
He is a non-believer and left you and not you leaving him.

And you can delete Ephesians 5:22-33 as well. There is zero reason to write that out - everyone reading it has a bible and can look it up.

You completely neglect to say far more important things (to a prospective wife in this setting) about who you are:
- Roughly where in the world do you live?
- What is your home actually like - how many wives live with you for instance?
- How old are you?
- What sort of person are you? Do you have any interests at all - do you like to play golf or shoot ducks or go scuba diving?

Don't edit this, you're wasting your time. Start again.

If your profile simply said (and I'm making up stuff here as I don't know you):

"I am a 32-year-old man from rural Texas, currently with two wives at home and several other women in Africa. I am a Torah-following Messianic Jew. In my spare time I like to try unsuccessfully to shoot ducks with a muzzle-loading flintlock shotgun, and go skiing with my wives. I'd like to expand my family with more like-minded wives, if this sounds like you send me a message."

Four sentences that would be a hundred times more likely to get someone to click on your profile than anything you've written above.

 

[Maddog]

Well, ModernPolygamy.com deleted my account do to my content. I'm guessing because I'm very strict on Biblical Practices all I got was this.

-‐-------------------‐-------------------------------------------

We manually review all new accounts before they are activated.
Unfortunately, your profile text was not approved. Everything else
was fine, so we encourage you to write more about yourself, what draws
you toward polygamy, and what you hope to find in a partner and then
try registering again for another review.

Your can also increase your chance of approval by uploading more
pictures when you are setting up your profile. Approval is based on
what will provide a good experience for other users. If in doubt,
think about what you would want to see.

Thank you,
David Hahn

Can you check you word usage and grammar? You're killing me with so many incorrect words for such an educated person. If it is autocorrect I get it but to, too, and two as well as do and due are not the same.

 

[ModernPolygamy]

I feel like I have to step in here and clear some things up.

We take member privacy very seriously and what is posted on the site stays there, but at the same time it seems this issue is being publicly aired and needs some context.

We review all accounts before they go live. Acceptance is based on user experience...in other words, if I was another member viewing this profile would I find it at least somewhat informative and worth my click, whether or not I was interested. Secondarily, if it's a man or couple then we also reject anyone who we know will not have a good experience.

I'd rather not risk them paying and being disappointed with their lack of responses than just prevent things going that way.

We then have 3 choices. Accept (profile is live), reject (full deletion, but they are welcome to sign up again and put in more effort), and mark as a "thin" profile. The last one is used for people that appear genuine and authentic but their profile was just not enough to be useful....in which case they become a ghost, able to look around but not be seen until they go back and edit with decent profile text.

AbrahamSolomon's profile was a flat rejection because it failed the two requirements covered above.

His profile was over 1,700 words long (measured by number of spaces). Only 25 of those words even remotely said anything about him and they were:

We Keep All 614 Laws

We are Jewish Believers of Hashem & Yahshua

THE BIBLICAL ORDER OF MEN AND WOMEN IN THE FAMILY AND THE CHURCH - UOJMJ

The remainder were bible quotes.

As I have explained to him, religion is not an issue in any way, but nothing in his profile said anything about him, his life, what he is looking for, or who he hopes to find. Rather, it was a collection of biblical quotes.

While there is nothing wrong with mentioning specific things that have great meaning to you, there should at least be as much about you as quotation or it would be impossible for a woman to know if there was the slightest interest. This was the reason for the verdict.

Obviously, I would be open to answering any questions anyone has about this or our policy on anything.

Thank you!

 

[Maddog]

Here is what I did much shorter.

I have 7 Wives and 1 son and 2 adopted Daughters
Kim, Karen, Dorty, Valeria, Bianca, Maggie, Alexandra

Wives: Never married/claimed marriage nor have had any kids.
Expectations: If your husband died and was a Teacher of G-d.
Concubines: If you had any kids and your husband is died and not a Teacher of G-d or
He is a non-believer and left you and not you leaving him.

We are looking for G-dly Women who don’t:

Drink
Smoke
Drugs
Celebrate any Pagan Holidays

We want Women who will:

Submit everything to their Husband.
Obeying me is Love and I will also Love you.
We have no Free Rides. Everyone works.

1. To know that G-d exists (Ex. 20:2; Deut. 5:6) (CCA1). See What Do Jews Believe?.
2. Not to add to the commandments of the Torah, whether in the Written Law or in its interpretation received by tradition (Deut. 13:1) (CCN159). See Torah.
3. Not to take away from the commandments of the Torah (Deut. 13:1) (CCN160). See Torah.
4. To be fruitful and multiply (Gen. 1:28) (CCA43).

Ephesians 5:22-33
King James Version (KJV)
22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.
24 Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in every thing.
25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.

Brevity is the soul of wit. She (potential wife) is crying because you yammer on too much. Think man! You can do it!

 

[FollowingHim]

@AbrahamSolomon, note that just from the discussions we have had with you here I guessed exactly correctly why @ModernPolygamy rejected your profile. As I suspected, there is nothing unreasonable about what they have done, it all makes perfect sense.

You just have difficulty interacting with other humans online. I suspect you're far better to talk to in person, but online you spend an extraordinary amount of time formulating detailed theses that simply confuse and turn people away. As @Maddog has pointed out, your grammar is also atrocious and offputting - maybe writing has just never been your strong point. That's not an insult - there's nothing wrong with being more at-home with a chainsaw than a computer keyboard. It's just a matter of recognising your strengths and weaknesses.

If you don't know how to write something like this, sit down with someone who can write better and get them to help.

 

[frederick]

I feel like I have to step in here and clear some things up.

We take member privacy very seriously and what is posted on the site stays there, but at the same time it seems this issue is being publicly aired and needs some context.

We review all accounts before they go live. Acceptance is based on user experience...in other words, if I was another member viewing this profile would I find it at least somewhat informative and worth my click, whether or not I was interested. Secondarily, if it's a man or couple then we also reject anyone who we know will not have a good experience.

I'd rather not risk them paying and being disappointed with their lack of responses than just prevent things going that way.

We then have 3 choices. Accept (profile is live), reject (full deletion, but they are welcome to sign up again and put in more effort), and mark as a "thin" profile. The last one is used for people that appear genuine and authentic but their profile was just not enough to be useful....in which case they become a ghost, able to look around but not be seen until they go back and edit with decent profile text.

AbrahamSolomon's profile was a flat rejection because it failed the two requirements covered above.

His profile was over 1,700 words long (measured by number of spaces). Only 25 of those words even remotely said anything about him and they were:



The remainder were bible quotes.

As I have explained to him, religion is not an issue in any way, but nothing in his profile said anything about him, his life, what he is looking for, or who he hopes to find. Rather, it was a collection of biblical quotes.

While there is nothing wrong with mentioning specific things that have great meaning to you, there should at least be as much about you as quotation or it would be impossible for a woman to know if there was the slightest interest. This was the reason for the verdict.

Obviously, I would be open to answering any questions anyone has about this or our policy on anything.

Thank you!

Thank you for stepping in and adding clarity to this matter. In the Bible we are encouraged to always hear both sides of a matter, so we appreciate your input. Shalom

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

I feel like I have to step in here and clear some things up.

We take member privacy very seriously and what is posted on the site stays there, but at the same time it seems this issue is being publicly aired and needs some context.

We review all accounts before they go live. Acceptance is based on user experience...in other words, if I was another member viewing this profile would I find it at least somewhat informative and worth my click, whether or not I was interested. Secondarily, if it's a man or couple then we also reject anyone who we know will not have a good experience.

I'd rather not risk them paying and being disappointed with their lack of responses than just prevent things going that way.

We then have 3 choices. Accept (profile is live), reject (full deletion, but they are welcome to sign up again and put in more effort), and mark as a "thin" profile. The last one is used for people that appear genuine and authentic but their profile was just not enough to be useful....in which case they become a ghost, able to look around but not be seen until they go back and edit with decent profile text.

AbrahamSolomon's profile was a flat rejection because it failed the two requirements covered above.

His profile was over 1,700 words long (measured by number of spaces). Only 25 of those words even remotely said anything about him and they were:



The remainder were bible quotes.

As I have explained to him, religion is not an issue in any way, but nothing in his profile said anything about him, his life, what he is looking for, or who he hopes to find. Rather, it was a collection of biblical quotes.

While there is nothing wrong with mentioning specific things that have great meaning to you, there should at least be as much about you as quotation or it would be impossible for a woman to know if there was the slightest interest. This was the reason for the verdict.

Obviously, I would be open to answering any questions anyone has about this or our policy on anything.

Thank you!

I was not done and just posted a small amount, most dating site allow people to edit it later when they have time.
You might want inform people they whatever they post is what is being graded on.

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

Thank you for stepping in and adding clarity to this matter. In the Bible we are encouraged to always hear both sides of a matter, so we appreciate your input. Shalom

Its fair, but maybe people should know that they must have a complete profile before trying.

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

@AbrahamSolomon, note that just from the discussions we have had with you here I guessed exactly correctly why @ModernPolygamy rejected your profile. As I suspected, there is nothing unreasonable about what they have done, it all makes perfect sense.

You just have difficulty interacting with other humans online. I suspect you're far better to talk to in person, but online you spend an extraordinary amount of time formulating detailed theses that simply confuse and turn people away. As @Maddog has pointed out, your grammar is also atrocious and offputting - maybe writing has just never been your strong point. That's not an insult - there's nothing wrong with being more at-home with a chainsaw than a computer keyboard. It's just a matter of recognising your strengths and weaknesses.

If you don't know how to write something like this, sit down with someone who can write better and get them to help.

I do think as I have said they should explain you must have a complete profile or its deleted and if so that is fine.

 

[AbrahamSolomon]

I have 7 Wives and 1 son and 2 adopted Daughters
Kim, Karen, Dorty, Valeria, Bianca, Maggie, Alexandra
We go to other countries and Teach The Word of G-d and Feed The Poor.
Most of my time I am running my household or running to and from places.

I am 44 yrs old and I mainly study G-ds Word and run my businesses.
I don’t watch TV much unless it's religious documentaries. We Pray 5 Times a day (8am, 11am, 2pm, 5pm, 8pm) 7 days a week and sometimes more. I don’t like sports but when I workout extremely 4 hrs daily when I have time and when I am able I walk 30,000 steps a day, but most of the time I am overwhelmed with work so I do it when I can.

My House is like a Royal Business where we stay focused on building and expanding non-stop, everything is The Families and handed out as needed. All my sons are like Executives who own a percentage of The Family Business and my Oldest Son is Head after me.

Requirements and Classifications between Wives and Concubines.
Wives: Never married/claimed marriage nor have had any kids.
Expectations: If your husband died and was a Teacher of G-d.

Concubines: If you had any kids and your husband is died and not a Teacher of G-d or
He is a non-believer and left you and not you leaving him.

We are looking for G-dly Women who don’t:

Drink
Smoke
Drugs
Celebrate any Pagan Holidays

We want Women who will:

Submit everything to their Husband and to G-d.
Obeying me is Love and I will also Love you.
We have no Free Rides. Everyone works.